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writes: Though i am pretty sure on this, but i still want to know. Is it true that women dislike being judged for their physical appearance? I have observed some of them getting conscious about covering up themselves when i look at them and try to measure them based on physical and psychological aspects. Is it like they want to live in a fairy tale world of their own and expect others to look at them with love and tenderness and such kind of intentions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): i think everyone judges each other on their physical appearance - its how we determine who we are physically and sexually attracted to. i admit that i take a look around the room to see if there are any guys i find attractive there but i dont limit myself to just those guys. i'll talk to anyone, regardless of their level of attractiveness.
What i hate is when a guy looks at me like im a piece of meat. i totally agree with sjfivhm07. theres nothing worse when a guy is constantly focused on my chest (even when im completely covered up!!) and most of the time its makes me feel uncomfortable - i hate being leered at.
so i think that most people do hate being judged on their physical appearance as "good looking" people might worry that people are after them just for their body and not for who they are, and for "not good looking" people, theres nothing worse to knock ur confdence than being rejected by someone before they've even spoken to u.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 This varies form women to women as it does form man to man. We are all individuals and we all have different wants and needs. I like to 'scrub up' and look nice, but I do it for MY self esteem rather than any one elses. As for being 'judged' on my appearance...in what way judged? If you mean, how expensive my clothes are, how thin I am, how expertly applied is my make up then no. That I regard as shallow. I would rather be judged on WHO I am as a person and my actions, as in what I do for others than how i look....
But that is just me, we all have differing viewpoints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Okay sjfivhm07,
And what about girls when they judge the guy from their looks and physique?. I have had experiences where pretty good looking girls would have a glance at me and turn away their faces. I feel rejected and am angry on them in such instances for i don't deserve that either.
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reader, sjfivhm07  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 If it were me, I would be uncomfortable with someone judging me right off the bat just by my looks. Yes, I agree w/Irish49 that it is important in the dating world, but I've had situations where guys I've just met don't make eye contact. Instead, they're staring at my chest. ALL THE TIME. To be honest, it doesn't make me uncomfortable anymore, but I still think it's rude. You can look a little, but if I'm trying to say something, make eye contact, or at least try to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): I agree totally with Dragonette. Great answer! In the dating world, physical appearance is important to most of us. Woman do the same thing to men. I do think we all accept that this is part of the dating game...scrutinizing physical appearance. No, I don't think woman expect love and tenderness the minute they meet a new fellow, but many of them do expect a display of respect and regard, coming from him. Hun, if a woman is covering herself up and getting self-concious when you are checking her out, perhaps you should learn to be a bit more discreet in how you are doing this. Perhaps you should change the 'way' you do this...remember respect is important.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 First of all I think you might be making a mistake in limiting this question to women as if they're a separate species. I think there's plenty of men out there who would also not appreciate being judged by their appearance.
I don't think women expect you to look at them with love or tenderness, though it might be appreciated by some. If you notice that a girl is covering up when you're looking at her, it probably means that you're staring and that you're making her uncomfortable.
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