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writes:Boyfriend and I are together 8 months. I'm on the patch so this may be a silly question! I finished my period last week and had sex with the boyfriend and now my breasts are very very sore, all over and nipples and a bit veiny. I also felt dizzy and nauseous the other morning... Anyway I know it can't be proved without a test. I will wait as its too soon. My boyfriend - we both agree its not a great time to have a baby (would prefer to wait a couple of years!) but if it happens it happens. It will be ok! However he's been joking about getting rest for the baby and holding my hair back when I get sick! He recently decided that he wants to get his sperm count checked so he knows for future reference? He's making me want to be pregnant now!!!! It's unlikely too given I am on BC. Do you think 8 month relationship is too soon to suggest to him to get pregnant.? I'm not sure whether he wants it now or not with all the nice slagging and joking! And anyway iv been broody for years! What u think? Thanks!!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2013): "Do you think 8 month relationship is too soon to suggest to him to get pregnant.?"
An eight month relationship is too soon to suggest to him to get married, and if it's too soon for you to make a lifetime commitment to each other then it's too soon to make a lifetime commitment to co-parent a child.
The best way to start a family would be to get married before you start planning to have children. That way you and your boyfriend will be legally related to each other, and your children's parents will be legally related from conception so you will give your children the strongest foundation possible and the execrable terms baby daddy and baby mama need nor ever apply.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 does not matter what HE wants... what do YOU want.
8 months is not enough time to know someone fully.
I can't see here in the states a man having a motility test just because, that's always reserved for married couples who have been trying to conceive for a while and are not successful.
IF you are on the patch (and not for long) the side effects could be from the patch. call your doctor.
and pee on a stick for peace of mind.
and do not let the romance of the idea of having a baby cloud your judgement. I heard on the tv yesterday that it will cost over 1 million dollars (american) to raise a baby for 18 years... are you ready for that?
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 waiting is great..just chill a year or 2 or 3 then you will know when you r both ready for this
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (13 May 2013):
 Possibly you were getting all these symptoms as a side-effect of the patch you were wearing?? It is far too soon to tell if you could be pregnant.
However, you and your bf are still very much in the getting to know each other stage, why on earth do you want to have a child when the relationship is still so new??
I would suggest you be a bit more careful with your contaceptives and wait at least 2 more years before having a child.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 I think that's inprobable you are pregnant- if you were, the levels of pregnancy hormons in your body would be too low yet to cause the symptoms you describe, which almost never appear before the 6th week of pregnancy ( = 4 weeks from conceiving ).
And I think that 8 months is still a fresh, new couple and VERY early to decide making a baby together. Wjat's your rush ? You say you both PREFER waiting two more years, so why don't you make sure that this preference will be actually respected ? I get it, if it happens sooner it's not a life- altering tragedy .... which does not mean that it HAS to happen now. If you stick to the original two years wait plain, it 's wiser.
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