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Is it too soon for a new relationship...and a baby?

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Question - (4 January 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *u-flaka22 writes:

I'm a 22 year old mommie of 2 baby boys 2yrs and 1yr, I was with their dad for 3 years which was really traumatic this is why: he's the type of man that wants everything to be the way he wants to (controlling, possessive, and jelaous guy) 2 years into our relationship I got tired of the way he treated me and cheated on him unprotected sex (which was wrong, I know) he's the type of guy who wants to have sex all the time so the day after I cheated we had sex (unprotected) I told him what I did and he just went crazy he wanted to kill me we talked , cried and fought, he told me it was over and I accept it but 30 min he changed his mind we said we were gonna start over but 4 weeks later I found out I was prego and didn't know who the dad was, he didn't wanted to take any chances so he made me get an abortion.

9 months later we split, 2 months later I met this guy which I love very much he wants kids so we had sex and might be prego but idk if its too early to start a new relationship? And a baby? I do wanna keep the baby if I am, What do ya'll think? Any advice will be helpful.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010):

No. Sounds like a bad idea. If you really are so fond of babies, adopt one. the world certainly does not need another baby to add to the crowd.

You started having children at 20 - are you financially stable? educated? what kind of life are these little people going to have with you? And is it such a good idea to have children whose dad may not be around, again? How many mistakes is a person permitted in your world?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010):

wow sounds like im asking the question here.i am 6 months prego with my bf whom ive known for 14 yrs and have only been in a relationship with for almost a year.he is the best thing in the world to me sure we have our ups and downs but my children adore him. sometimes i ask myself what the hell im thinking or doing but i blame it on the hormones. the answers to your questions i think you should go with your gut and heart really listen to it who knows he could be the one.im sure other ppl in your life will have thier own opinions on what you should do but really its your life and you have to live it not them.just be careful its so easy to fall for someone after a bad relationship if hes what you want i say go for it but keep your gaurd up also just in case.

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