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Is it time to let go?

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Question - (22 December 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 22 December 2010)
A female South Africa age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been with my boyfriend for 3yrs now and the 1st 2yrs were great and problem free. By lately things have been really getting out of hand. We fight almost everyday and whenever i try calling our relationship off, he refuses, and begs me not to. We love each other so much bt the fights are really getting to me and i dont think i can handle it. What am i supposed to? im so confused.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010):

Im in the same boat as you. 4 year relationship and the 1st year was great but now we too fight everyday starting off small and ending up HUGE. I tried talking to him bout it. its good for a few days then back to fighting. He wont do counceling since he feels he has no problem. Just seek advice from us and your close friends. and if you cant take it no more as I am too. One day we just gonna say 'Its over' and leave. That day just hasnt gotten here yet. Good luck girl

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010):

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Well, Lily, to be more detailed, we fight about almost everything & those fights start off very small & end up huge. Often we fight about him putting his friends 1st & not making much time for me (annoying habits). Wen i confront about it him he accuses me of being selfish....then thats wen everything starts to go bad. Talking wud be an option bt we tried it b4 but still failed to come to one mutual solution

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010):

Difficult to give advice when you don't say what the fights about, or what the issues are within your relationship.

Are the fights over niggly, annoying habits, big issues, deal-breakers ( violence, cheating, drugs, gambling) probably not, but answering a question with little detail, would mean taking guesses or giving wide sweeping advice based on what I thought may be going on.

If you were really happy in the first 2 years, then what has changed to make you fight, it's those issues which have brought you to this stage you both need to talk over and decide if you really want to go forward any more.

Good luck!

Jilly

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010):

if you really love this man try to work on it because i know what is loosing your love.every relationship has problems rather than fighting sit and think what is going wrong where and try to work on it.talk to him also about your problems.one always has to be patient and compromising and there is noting wrong in that.

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