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Is it strange that me and my fiance don't shower together?

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Question - (7 November 2010) 9 Answers - (Newest, 16 November 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *icoleray143 writes:

My Cousin stayed the weekend with me and my Fiance recently and we had got done making Dinner and he went to take a Shower and my Cousin says 'your not gonna take a shower with him' and i say No 'Why and she says have you ever showered together, i said No and so she can't Believe that me and my Fiance have been together about 3 in a half years and never showered together..so my Q is 'do you think it is Strange that me and my Fiance dont shower together and do most Couples shower together??

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010):

I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and we shower together all the time. It's not for sex either it's just the closeness. He washes my hair and soaps up my body and I wash his. It gets a bit cold and I'm never warm enough but I wouldn't trade that experience for anything. My ex never even allowed me in the bathroom with him so this is a nice change of pace. Incidently we are extremely close in that we share underwear, shirts and even a toothbrush if needed. So like the others said...to each their own.

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A female reader, dmartin89 United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2010):

dmartin89 agony auntNah, my boyfriend doesn't like it! He thinks of showering as his personal time!

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (8 November 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntSome do, some don't. Some try it once for fun. No one I know does it on a regular basis. Maybe on vacations in a hot tub or something...don't sweat it.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (8 November 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntYou may have one of those shower stalls that really only are meant for one..or one of you likes to take baths. No big deal, some couples do it at least once, some never do, and others do it from time to time. Generally couples share together for shower sex..or I enjoy my husband washing my hair plus it saves on our water bill.

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (8 November 2010):

xanthic agony auntSome do, some don't. Either way, it's really none of her business.

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A female reader, RennieGeek United States +, writes (8 November 2010):

Most don't shower together on a regular basis. It's like a for fun thing. And if I did, I would NEVER do it while I had company. Sounds like your cousin is a bit of an exhibitionist or was just nosy and wanted to know your business.

It is fun, but it's not something I do to get clean. Lol.

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A female reader, kirra07 Canada +, writes (8 November 2010):

It's a little odd that you've never showered together in 3.5 years. Usually couples try it for fun. But lots of couples don't shower together all the time or even that often. It's not that great to be standing in the cold while waiting for the other person to switch up with you.

If you're curious, you could wait until he's in the shower, undress, and slip in with him. Soap each other up, see if you two like it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010):

If you two are happy, don't worry about it... everyone is different. I had a friend who had been married for several years (then got divorced) she and I got naked in her hot tub and I found out it was her FIRST TIME being naked outside... her and her husband had NEVER gotten in naked, but she enjoyed it!

So, if you're interested, climb in with him! Or, take a bath together, get naked in a hot tub, or skinny dip in a pool! Enjoy yourself! Book a vacation in a nice hotel with a private pool in your room - many resorts have these!

If you're uncomfortable being naked, learn to love it! It's important to have a good body image, especially around your lover!

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (8 November 2010):

C. Grant agony auntDifferent strokes for different folks. Some do shower together -- it can be fun. Not all the time, of course, but once in a while.

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