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writes:Do you think it is right for a man to flirt with other females.(ex.online,texting,and in person.)I have been with my bf for over 4 yrs and I am seen as the jealous one if I tell him it bothers me..Should it bother me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): I feel exactly the same as Miamine, but I want to add something. If we are talking flirting like she describes then I see no problem in it. If we are talking flirting that is obviously targeted at picking someone up then that is an entirely different matter and is a problem for someone who is in a committed relationship.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 There are some people who flirt, and others who see this as a low form of adultery. Most of the people I know are flirts, they flirt with everyone, children, old people, the postman and the milkman. If flirting is saying nice stuff to people to make them feel attractive, and using your body language in a way to make them feel special, then yes, I flirt all the time, and so do many people.
My parents hated my ex, they are both flirts, and they couldn't understand why I wasn't allowed to dance with other men. For them it is natural to dance and flirt and then go home together. Keeping yourself wrapped up together and not being able to interact is something the see as selfish. But that's how they see the world.
Your boyfriend could be like this. Maybe he's natural flirt, and your not, and you don't like it. One thing I know is a natural flirt can not stop, it's part of their personality. Just like someone who hates it will never feel comfortable.
You and your partner are mismatched, just like an early-bird and a night-owl, or an extrovert and an introvert. You either learn to understand, get along and compromise, or you split up. But it's impossible for you to be the same. He likes to flirt and make people feel nice. You don't think this is appropriate and you don't like the way it makes you feel. Find some way to solve your problem of find somebody less outgoing and sociable.
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