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writes:I'd like your opinions about this. Is it right for a boyfriend to say that he should always be your top priority, meaning even more important than your friends and family, e.t.c ?. Personally, i think everyone should be treated equally. i dont think anyone should be superior to the other, as everyone is important in my life. however, when i told my boyfriend that, he said i am really screwed up if i think that a boyfriend shouldn't be put first. i do care about him a lot, but i also care about my friends and family too.What do you think ?. Reply to this Question
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reader, loraemoon +, writes (6 July 2010):
 no hes being very selfish, but on the other hand he could be feeling insecure, no boyfriend should think there top dog n should come first in everything,
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reader, Odds  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 Well, not *everyone* in your life should be treated equally. Family always comes first, long-term friends before new ones, and so on.It sounds as though he is reacting to being put off for dates. Did you cancel a date for a girls' night out, or flake in order to be with your family? Have you been "busy" the last few times he wanted to do something? If so, he probably thinks that he's *not* being treated equally, and is in fact being played. He is justified in thinking this, and you should make more time for him.If you have not flaked or been too busy for him, then it's insecurity on his part, and he probably was treated poorly by an ex girlfriend. Just be patient, and he'll see that you're different eventually.The point is, that while a boyfriend should be a high priority, but not the TOP one - well, it's not wrong to *say* he should be the top priority. If you're a good girlfriend, and he's a good guy, he'll get over it in a while.
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reader, AznPersuasion +, writes (5 July 2010):
 Your right, yes if he means lot to you then he should be treated well but just because hes your boyfriend doesn't mean he is above the ones you love, as in your bestfreinds and family. he is being controlling and if you want the relationship to be all bout him taking over you then you can make him your top priority, but if you want to try to fix it.. talk to him bout it. he may not like it. but you never really know. (:
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 July 2010):
 I think your right and he is wrong. You should definitely consider him as important...but top priority at all times?...nope. Well done for recognising controlling behaviour xxx
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