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writes:I don't know, I wouldn't say I was boring! Although I'm a family girl, married and a mum, I travel around the world a couple of times a year, I go to Rock gigs (Eric Clapton on Saturday!), I perform and I am always up for a party.But most people my age (30) seem to spend as much of their free time as possible going to night-clubs and getting drunk.Now, I've spent years dancing every friday and saturday night away, but does it really make sense to go to clubs as a means to socialise?I find it impossible to hold a conversation above the blasting music, so how can people hope to pull potential partners, let alone catch up with their friends they only ever see on week-ends?More to the point, people get so drunk, they can't even remember what happened!My best friend and I have been on many nights out, across the years, but we talk over coffee and dinners. That's how I know we're there for each other, we have things in common and love each other... and that most of her other friends have never shared a deep conversation with her.Every birthday she has, we're all off to clubs and the more money she makes, the closer we get to places like Meza, China White and other places where you might meet a celebrity or two.Great times? Actually, they always go wrong, she always gets upset by one of these 'friends', especially when they all get drunk and feel the frustration of being different from each other and never quite getting close enough to compromise on things.I might sound like an old woman, but give me a dinner party or a pic-nick any day and we'll put some music on or I'll sing you a song!What is it with this obsession with 'the night life'? Or is it just that we've become so incapable of communication, it just seems so much easyer to drown it out?!
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reader, elfmagnet101  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 Feel sorry for the foolish people that think they'll find true love at a night club :/....
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reader, sofiamorgan +, writes (2 July 2008):
 I know exactly what you mean, although I'm not in the same age group as you, my friends do go out clubbing ALOT. When I haven't seen them for a while thats the last thing I want to do I'd rather go for a meal or catch up over a cuppa. Don't get me wrong I love going out, but not when you want to have a real chat!
Great article...you have made some really good points.
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (1 July 2008):
Annalisa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi, guys!
'Twist of Fate', I am Italian, maybe that's my problem!
Where I come from, friends meet up and have fun talking, playing guitar and singing the night away. Most of my family and friends met their partners through friends, school or after-church-youth-club.
Getting drunk is left to old men in taverns!
'Minelisse', I'm only 30 and the same age as those who go clubbing and getting wasted!
I love dancing in clubs as much as I did before getting my first gray hair, but I've never seen the point in using the night life to socialise. It's a culture thing, I'm sure, but it makes me want to scream when my single friends bang on about yet another failed relationship.
God bless!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 You are getting older and thus the important things in life like conversations and peacefulness become more important than what is socially recognized as having fun like bars and beers. I think this is the reason we become more interesting as we become older, social pressure starts to weight down a bit and our own desires and needs come about.
Getting older is great... even if there is a wrinkle or two more!
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