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anonymous
writes:Was hanging out with my boyfriend one night and he wanted us to go to the drive in later that night after dinner so i agreed and when we got there we let all of the seats down to get comfortable and in the middle of the movie he starts unbuttoning my shirt and pulling up my skirt and i told him that i wasnt in the mood but he didnt stop and he went all of the way and it hurt because it was my first time and i didnt want to loose my virginity that way. I want to tell but im afraid of him and im not sure if its rape because he was my boyfrien.. Is it...If it is what should i do....When should i do it...Please help me.
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reader, Smiles  + ♥, writes (7 September 2008):
 Dear Poster
I have followed your posting and the answers given; it was a great relief tonight to read your feedback; I am so happy that you are okay and I thanmk people like Diovan who have been there to assist you;
I am very proud of you young lady; and yes I know it must have been difficult for you; but vow, you will be able to look back at this as an experience that you have learnt from; but you know what ...you have also help others in the same or similar situations to be strong and to do what is right; furthermore you have at least helped to see to it that this particular person cannot hurt any other girls.
I salute you, young lady!
If ever you need help or advise; you know you are alwaqys welcome.
And again I thank somebody like Diovan, for reaching out.
I wish you lots of love and happiness and lots of hugs and smiles.
Take good care of yourself; I am very proud of you!
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reader, DiovanLestat  + ♥, writes (7 September 2008):
 Thanks for the update babes,
There are a lot of people here that were very worried about you. It was very kind of you to come back and tell us how you are getting on. You have been very sensible and brave. Although you were scared you come to Dear Cupid and told us what happened to you. A lot of people are frightened to report Rape, but you went and you told. You have stopped this man from hurting someone else the way he hurt you. You have nothing to be ashamed off, you should be very proud of yourself. You have protected the world from this nasty beast, and for that I thank you very much. Take care of yourself, I am thinking about you and wishing you good luck, good health and happiness for the rest of your life. Blessings
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who gave me good advice to help me get over this terrifying and traumatic situation and it was fairly hard for me, but I was able to seek help and feel safer with it all being over with a lot of the aunts and uncles on here were right he had done this before and was only able to be locked away because he was caught in this act once more and he had been on trial before and was sentenced to 10 years minimum sentence and I feel much better and what really made me speak up was the fact that I am only 13 and i have my whole life ahead of me and i shouldn't have to live with that type of fear or guilt of thinking that it was all my fault so i just wanted to thank everyone who helped me i feel much better...
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reader, ak202 +, writes (3 September 2008):
It is 100% rape. Its rape when one person wants to have sex and the other doesn't want it yet the other person forces them to do it. You should talk to someone about it, don't keep it in because its not your fault. Don't ever blame yourself.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (1 September 2008):
Hey babes,
We are all thinking about you and we hope you are keeping well. Don't be frightened, we believe you and we want you to keep yourself safe. If we believe you and want to protect you, then your parents, your family and all of your friends will think the same thing. You have done nothing wrong, he is the evil pig here. Don't leave us in the dark, please update your post, we want to make sure you are happy and well...
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reader, supermum +, writes (1 September 2008):
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reader, stephen1127 +, writes (1 September 2008):
that is 100% rape and if you wasnt ready aswell you should tell someonegoodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): It was 100% rape.
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reader, missy me +, writes (31 August 2008):
 no matter who the person is even if hes your boyfriend tell someone straight away this guy raped you whats to say he hasnt done this before and he might even do it again you need to speak to someone i know how this feels my ex boyfriend raped me and it took me three months to tell someone and by then it was to late you need to speak out asap x dont ever blame yourself for this men like him arent worth it and dont be scared of him he cant hurt you if you speak up !! please speak to your parents if not them then a friend someone you can trust please....
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): It doesn't matter who it was.If they force themselves on you
by penetration,then it is rape.Tell your parents.There may
be nothing you can do,depending on the time,but your parents
need to know this.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (31 August 2008):
You said NO, he continued, you didn't want to do it.. That's rape... Even if he is your boyfriend, it is still classed as date rape. Sorry babes he hurt you, but you have done nothing wrong. You went to the pictures with your boyfriend, you did not expect him to force you to have sex. I don't know if he used a condom, so there is still a chance of sexual infections and pregnancy. You did nothing wrong. You are right to be scared of him. Don't worry babes....
PLEASE GO TELL YOUR MUM.. your mum will understand and she will tell you what to do....
You can also phone the rape crisis people, here is their website.. http://www.rainn.org/
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reader, sparky +, writes (31 August 2008):
I'm very sad to agree that it was rape. Anytime it is non-consensual (not agreed), it is rape. This man sounds cruel, knowing it was your first time, and didn't stop. Generally, this may not have been the first time he's done that, and probably won't be the last. I know it will be difficult and take courage, but please go to the authorities to report him, or he may do this to another girl. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): sounds like rape, especially since it was your first time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Yes I'm afraid it was. You poor thing I no your probably scared rite now but you have to tell someone like a parent or gardian coz if you said no then he should of stoped and waited till you were ready no matter how long! What he did woz rong and should be delt with if you dint like it dont let him get away wid it.
Good luck =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): It is always rape if you are forced to have sex against your will. You can seek non-judgemental advice from rape crisis centres or women's organisations. I hope you can tell your family. You can of course report it to the police, but if this happened a while ago so there is no physical evidence you were forced, and no one saw it happen, it may be difficult to get the guy who assaulted you charged and convicted. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Do seek the help you need.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (31 August 2008):
 it doesnt matter who the hell it is if you didnt want to do it and said stop, and he didnt its rape.
Tell a friend and have the go to the police as i you dont this will continue.
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