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Is it possible to have true love for the wrong person?

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Question - (21 January 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 18 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Is it possible to have true love (I don't think that's grammatically correct :S) for the wrong person?

You see, there's someone who makes me smile and blush just when they look at me. When they talk to me it feels like my heart will burst out of my chest. When they're happy, I'm glad that something has made them smile. When they're sad, I want to cry.

The first problem is that she's a she. I live in England, and we should accept people of all sexual orientations, etc, but people at my school really don't.

Second problem is that she's a teacher.

Could this be true love? I believe that it is, and I believe that there is one person who is perfectly suited to you, and they are the only person you feel true love for. I can never be with her, so what do I do?

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A female reader, DIE-romantic. United Kingdom +, writes (18 February 2009):

DIE-romantic. agony auntSweetie, we can't help who we fall in love with, believe me, I know this situation too well. Obviously you can't be with her, and you know that which is a good thing. But you really cannot help who you fall for, it's possible + sadly too common. So I wouldn't worry about whether you're feelings are wrong or right, if you feel it, that's all that matters and it happens. I live in England too, so I know how often people are judged about this kind of thing, so maybe it's best not to tell anyone at your school about it, because they won't understand and they'll react immaturely about it, which is the last thing you need on top of this. Just see how it goes darling and just talk to her, have a joke with her, theres nothing stopping you from getting to know her or forming a structural relationship :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009):

People do have a knack for choosing exactly the worse things for us.

The way you move on is you lessen personal contact over time, make an Oath that you are unable to break that you will treat the teacher with the respect and friendship only.

Start dating other guys closer to your own age. Get to know them... see how their heads work. Eventually someone else will come along and those feelings will start over again.

Time is trully the only way for such things to heal.

Flynn 24

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009):

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I know I can't ever be with my teacher-I accept that.

But how do I move on when I don't have the slightest feelings for anyone else?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009):

Having "true love for the wrong person" is not only possible, it's very common.

Who we're attracted to is not who is right for us a lot of the time.

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