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writes:We were in love for nearly 3 years. We know each other quite well, he brought me to see his family and he also visited my house, see my parents everyweek. I am Capricorn and he is Aries.One day, I got angry because he leave me for getting out with friends (and its been nearly one month we didnt meet). I texted to him and said we should not meet each other. He didnt reply at all. 2 months passed. No reply.Nothing. I missed him so much and tried many calls, send emali ask what is the problem? Can we see to settle it and we can speak out what we like or dislike with each other, then adjust it. And his acts would make me think he is with his ex, etc. Then he replies, He needs my support not acting like that!I were very happy to see his mail. Replied back that I always support him, but I just dont like the way he ignored me like that, I dont mean to do that and I am sorry…Then half a year past, on holiday, he sent his brother to meet me, gave me some gift of his parents. At that time, I was angry so much for his act while leaving me alone for such a long time. I didnt care at all, just be polite with his brother and finish my duty. Even I tried to escape when he tried to come to pick his brother (and maybe to see me).Since then we dont meet. I changed number but still think of him everyday. 3 years already. Sometime he send online msg for me. Just ask how am I, normal conversation we made. Then he got silence again. Whenever I miss him, I search for his pic, get online and found out something wrong as seeing his avatar on facebook. That picture I took for him, and now it is tagged with another woman.Or I see he was hugging his co-worker during working…Few months ago. I miss him so much. I recreate a proflie and there I make my name with his sure name. I added him. He accepted. We transfered text to each other, just very formal about work. Then one day, he send msg said: “I miss you”. Really I were very happy. I replied back that I also miss him and really want to meet him. Again, no replied from him.So I tried to call him by landline (I am afraid if he saw my cell number, he will not answer) . He picked up and suprrisingly wonder why I had his number (in fact that number he gave me long time agoooo). We then talk about work, job, etc. He also ask for my new number. But never call me.On Christmas I also call to greet him. He answer me very okie. And I asked if I can visit him? He said its too far… Then I said I love him, he told I am crazy, and no love reply back.Last week, we have long holiday. So I call him, I wish to meet him on this occasion. He replied he is too busy, but will try. Then after 2 days, when the holiday started, I called him again. Surprisingly, he didnt answer! That made me worry and forced me to call again and again. I also text that pls tell me if there is anything wrong, I beg him. I worried so much. He texted back: “Im fine”.After seeing that text, I got more nervous. Wonder why he acted like that. I kept sending msg, calls. I woke all that night just for calling him and text msg to him. I asked him whats wrong, why dont make clear, I will accept it. I am sorry for my act, but his avoidance forced me to do impolitely like that. Then he texted back 2 msg, told: “Before, I just reply you as a friend for old time sake” and “There is no “US”, there is nothing to be clear. Pls stop bothering me. Now I regret why I entertain your very first call.”I got shock!!! I didnt call him after that text. But till now I m hurting. I dont know what to do, really I dont understand why his act like this. Can anyone give me advice…
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reader, shy12345 +, writes (4 February 2012):
shy12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi jonas! Thank you very much for your reply.You advice me not to contact to his friend. And I forget that. I did it while I lost my mind.Many of his friend avoided to answer me, except one. And... I got it clear. He is dating with his coworker! On her facebook, that person told me the girl left... in a relationship status with him. But his facebook... he hides everything!That friend didnt tell me much thing. I just asked her to confirm what I saw. and all replies are Yes!Just few months ago, I also saw his picture with her taken right on his birthday 3 years ago (that time we were still together. I also wanted to be with him, but he said he was... busy!)On the day his company celebrated the successful project. He also sent me msg that he wanted me to be there with him. But he was so shy. (Later I saw his pic, hugging that girl right on that day!)And that friend also said... there are alot of their pics on company's server!It's just a part of many things I found out which are... too late!My feeling now... is nothing cant describe!And unfortunately, when I saw him saying missing me, I added him on my new facebook. :(But I really appreciate your advices as well as eyeswideopen's and other visual friends who may come and leave msgs. Thank you very much again. Wish we can contact through other means :).
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reader, shy12345 +, writes (3 February 2012):
shy12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Eyewideopen,
I hope this pain will be over soon...
I alsway hope he just avoids me...
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reader, shy12345 +, writes (3 February 2012):
shy12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Jonas...
I am still be hurt. And I even want to contact to his friend or relatives... just to say sorry to him.
I dont know is it right way to do that.
Now I start blaming myself for all the fault :(
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Sorry but the reason he is acting like this is because he couldn't care less about you. Stop calling, texting, emailing him. It's time to call it quits Honey.
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