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writes:If someone you know is single and has a hard time moving on because of losing the one they loved and only saw themselves with that other person? Is it possible to find love again or only that one person was their true love? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Been there myself and the best advice I can give you is to not think about him all the time. Easy to say hard to do.
You have to live in the present. If you keep thinking about it you will constantly bring that pain into your present. Also if you constantly look to the future and see nothing but hopelessness and loneliness you will bring that pain into your present too.
BUT if you stay in the present moment concentrating your thoughts on the moment, the right now (not the past, not the future) you will heal. Do not think 'oh we used to have spend saturdays together, i miss that' instead think 'what do I want to do this saturday? '
I don't know how else to explain it. It took me years to figure out I was making myself miserable by constantly remembering him and feeling regret. I created my own unhappiness my not controlling my thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Yes it is possible to find love again - only if you let yourself love and be loved... At the time of losing that person, it seems like your whole life is falling apart. But slowly given time, your heart heals and so do the wounds.
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reader, lovingheart  +, writes (14 March 2008):
Yes it is possible to find love again though it takes times. At the time of the breakup you may feel that the person you lost is the only one for you. Time heals everything.
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reader, Paladin +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Life does go on and yes that person will probably meet someone else and fall in love. It doesn't mean the person will ever stop loving their first love and it certainly won't be a replacement. It will simply be another chapter in life. unfortuantely this is something only time can deal with and when it will happen is totally unpredictable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Of course you can love again. If you want to. If you don't let your thought life become obsessed with the past. If you don't make your past love into an idol. The future is ahead and to a large extent you control your own destiny.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 When one door closes ,another will open.
Time will heal your hurts and pains,
In time ,a new shoot will grow from that stump
and find new love again.
I am sorry for your loss.
Opportunities will always be there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Yes you can find love again and when you feel you lost it you never think you will feel like this again about someone, but you can and you do.
It all happens when we a ready to love again too!
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (14 March 2008):
 Yes, it's possible... with time! Time heals all wounds, even deep wounds like the one you describe. Can I ask how long ago did this person lose their loved one?
~Eve~
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