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writes:Is there such a thing as being friends with your ex? I just broke up with this guy, i love him in fact I'm in love with him but i've had enough of the relationship. he says he still loves me but i think like me he's also had enough. i do want to let go but i'm finding it hard to just go quiet. i find myself calling him just to say hi and feel much better afterwards and not really care much about him. Is it possible that we can be friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for responding will try as hard as it may seem to stop contacting him.it might take a while but like they say time is a great healer.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (15 August 2011):
You can be friend with your ex as long as you don't love him any more (and neither does him). But chances are it will be a problem with your next boyfriend.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 August 2011):
 It's possible to be friends when the romantic feelings have gone away. If they aren't gone you only end up hurt if you stay in touch. What happens when one of you find someone new? It will be devastating for the ex to witness, even if a long time has passed since the breakup.
So, if you want to stay friends, keep your personal life private from each other and don't hang out with too many people, or bring in new dates/relationships. After a fresh breakup people still feel some sort of emotional connection and ownership over the other person, which takes time to move on from.
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (14 August 2011):
 How long has it been since you broke up? Is it you who does the calling or is it him too? If it's just you then I'd say you need to find some other way to cope rather than calling him, to help you come to terms with the end of the relationship.
In order to be friends I think you need to have something more in common than a past romantic relationship and until you are truly over that there is no telling whether you can have a real friendship.
How will you feel when/if he meets someone else? Will you still want to be friends?
I suggest you gove it a bit more time and try and end contact for a while to get over this break-up.
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