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Is it pathetic of me to have fallen for a girl I met on vacation?

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Question - (22 August 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 August 2014)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I've just come back from a holiday and I'm really depressed.im not bothered about coming home, but I met a girl there called Beth, she was absolutely stunning, she had a younger brother and sister and she was so good with them, adorably cute with them, she as a person is everything I want.

We had small brief conversations whilst sat in reception but I never got her contact details second name or anything so I have no way of finding her on social media, which makes it even worse.

Also when she knew I was leaving the hotel to go home there was a look into each other's eyes as if there was a connection I don't know?

Am I just been really weird and pathetic? Every girl I meet now I will compare to her and I don't even know the girl hardly but she was just perfect.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (22 August 2014):

olderthandirt agony auntPreserve that memory,that's all that's left you, Any chance of reaquainting? If yes, take that chance..if no, try to not obsess over her. Memories of chance encounters will keep you warm in your older years.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 August 2014):

Honeypie agony auntIt's called a crush. And it doesn't make you pathetic. It makes you human.

We met MANY people in life we find attractive and/or find ourselves attracted to, some we will never get to know, others we do.

Learn from this little experience. IF you met a really nice girl then TALK to her, get to know her if possible.

Now you think this girl is perfect. That is because 99% of the things you presume about her are fantasy. It's EASY for someone you BARELY know to be perfect. In actuality, she isn't perfect. She was just a really cute girl you wanted to get to know. Like WiseOwlE says, don't compare other girls to a fantasy. OR to another girl. It isn't fair. I mean how would you like to be compared to Kit Harington or Michael Fassbender?

It will be OK and it's fine to have a crush on a girl you don't know and may never know.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2014):

You felt your first twinge of love. Your summer vacation was the setting that made it all the more special. You will have many brief encounters like this as a young man. The sadness passes. Just like it does when the school year ends and you don't get to see your friends, when you move or your best friend moves away. You will get over the sadness.

It just might take what seems like forever; but it isn't as long as you think.

You are very young, and there will be other girls just as sweet or sweeter. You're just feeling a super-crush and this emotion is only a taste of what love is; but just enough for you to develop those kind of feelings.

You are maturing and your feelings will attach very quickly and feel very strong; when in reality you don't know her well enough to fall in-love.

Don't worry. Nature is kind, and will allow your broken sad heart to mend sooner than you'll realize. You should not compare anyone to anyone else. You wouldn't want to be treated that way by her, or other girls you'd like to meet. So give each girl credit for whatever makes her special.

Wait until the school year starts. Some nice girl will come along and she will help you to get over your sadness.

Good luck!

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