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writes:Having sex with 11 guys in my life, now i`m 19, do you think that too much, or is it normal.Please tell me cause i think its whoreish, using protection and sometimes not but it was all guys that were in relation with me jest 5 were friends. So do u think thats over doing it? i`ll really like to know cause i feel really bad knowing my life is so crappy, Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): i'm 17 and i'm up to 11, it's all on how you look at it
sex doesn't mean anything to me besides feeling good haha well that's how i look at it right now.. i'll probably develop stronger feeling and gain more emotion when someone who i fall in love with rolls around. until then whatever, you only live once
be safe however
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): No I would see if you said 20 guys then that will be a promble. I think you are just getting bored with one guy to fast.
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reader, TELLULAH  + ♥, writes (2 January 2008):
 SamaraiRick,
You have normal Cristian beliefs and I have every respect for that. We would all love to find that right person early on in our lives and live together happily for the rest of it. But for some that is a fairy tale and it doesn't happen.
I believe I am a caring person and worry about others, otherwise I would not come on this site. I dont wish to insult anyone for there beliefs, but people like anon quite honestly make me sick.
I will not carry on this argument any longer except to say again, that we all make mistakes. And as they say in the bible "Those without sin"
Oh and by the way ANON dont flatter yourself I wouldnt date you either. I am suprised the K.K.K dont keep you more busy.
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reader, Star_07  + ♥, writes (22 December 2007):
 SamuraiRick: Thanks for adding an answer that is honest and true to your beliefs. I apologize for ranting about Christians or any organized religion for that matter.
On the other hand, Mr. Anon seems to pick out Tellulah and I as liberal feminists who think of sex as a cigar. In my defense, I have basic morals that align well with Christian beliefs but not as EXTREME. I came here to uplift that girl's spirit and not make her feel like she is ruined for life because I feel that people do make mistakes and you dont have to have self-hatred to change. Im not going to argue anymore but I dont want people making assumptions about MY personal life on this advise column. My anger stems from Mr. Anon's rudeness and stupidity, and he continues!
Futurequiete, I apologize for all the animosity going on in here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Okay, I'm going to play the 60-year-old guy in Texas who some may call an old fuddy-duddy. But darlin', if you have that much going at age 19, you are being a slut. I've been with more than 150 women in my life, but please, it was mostly one at a time, and I spread it out over all these years.
Just think about this for a moment: Good sex, with a man or woman, is something that grows over time. It's not just banging multiple times with a lot of different people. For me, it was about exploring how to please, and be pleased, by a partner for truly satisfying experiences.
Take it for what it's worth, but I always found sex to become more and more satisfying with a woman, whether a wife or girlfriend, the more we learned about how to really make the other person happy. How can you possibly do that when you're just bouncing around from bed to bed? Personally, I think you're looking for happiness and don't know how.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Mr anon here. I mostly agree with SamuraiRick. I did get a little rude, but that was after star_07 and tellulah were very rude to my post. They are obviously very liberal feminists, and I just don't like that kind of female. I have my beliefs, and most of the USA agrees with me on my stand with morals and 'proper' behaviour. I already appologized before, I"m just stating what is acceptable her in the USA, and to just about anyone I know. I wouldn't date this girl for anything, and that is my right. Tellulah can have opinions and that is her right (I wouldn't date her neither).
As for Christians in the USA, I was a little high, but you are little low. I just looked up the numbers and the 2 most recent all encompansing demographic state 88.3% (but that includes mormons, non-demoniational, etc), and the other number is 84%, so I guess the real number is around 85% of the USA are Christians. A little lower than my 90%, but a little higher than your 70%.
I won't continue this war of words. I (and many others) have my standards and morals, and others are free to have theirs. Like you said, I'm probably the strict right side (virgin at marriage), and tellulah and star_07 are at the extreme left side (enjoy sex like a cigar, just do whatever feels good). I think somewhere in the middle like you suggest is probably a better answer. I still think this girl having 11 by now is too many, and she needs to re-think her relationships and how much she cares about the guy before giving it away. Like someone here said, get inside his head before his pants. Good Advice.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (20 December 2007):
 The problem with answering a question like this is that everyone has a different opinion of what sex is all about. For some sex is special, and should be reserved for marriage only. For others sex is like smoking a cigar, a pleasure to be taken on its own without guilt. The truth is somewhere in the middle.
Let’s lay down our weapons here people. Tellulah is angry at Mr. anon for expressing a few things that may be true for him, but quite frankly he expresses in a very rude and unchristian like way. To call you a slut is unfeeling and uncaring on his part to say the very least. A true Christian shows more compassion than that. As a Christian he should know more than anything that all of us commit sin, and the truest judge of that sin is God himself. If anyone thinks his line of thinking is “typical,” you are mistaken as well.
I am not a preacher, so I will make this brief. Jesus Christ himself did spill out hatred to sinners. In fact he did the opposite and expressed love and compassion. His final sacrifice on the cross was a statement of love because he took on the sins of all of us. Whether you believe in this or not is not important, but this is just to let you and everybody know that Mr. anon only speaks for himself.
That being said he is right about a couple things. He is right that a majority of Americans are Christian…..but 90 percent is a little high. It’s closer to 70 percent, but that’s still a majority. He is also right in saying men do judge women by their past. A woman that has slept with many partners can stain her in their eyes. But this is not just with Christians. In some countries women are stoned to death for having multiple sexual partners…even if she was raped (and these are not Christian based countries).
I am a Christian and even though I realize that the ideal is to have one partner for life, I also know from experience that’s not always practical in practice. Relationships come and go whether they are short term or greater. At the very least you should use judgment in who you sleep with and when. Know objectively what that sex means in the context of the relationship.
Do not concern yourself with the number of partners you have, but how you got into those situations. If you felt it was love, how can anyone judge you? If you had sex just for the sake of the pleasure of it… again no one here should judge you. Only YOU can know what is comfortable with you, base on your own code of morality and way of life.
If you have felt that in the past you have been used and got into sex too quickly then that will make you guilty. That’s your conscience doing its job, the angel on your shoulder if you will. Learn from it and make adjustments in your life. Use more discretion and only sleep with a man when you are absolutely comfortable with him. Again, You are the judge of this, not all of us out here.
I don’t think you are a whore or a slut. You have had more than some less than others. We all have different experiences. But since you do feel some sense of guilt in the number of men you had sex with, my suggestion is to step back and cool things down for a while. Continue to date, and get in the habit of getting inside a guys head before you so quickly get inside his pants. You will feel better for yourself if you do this.
I wish you all the best.
P.S. Your life is not crappy, you’ve just had bad luck with the guys you’ve met. Have faith you can find someone special in your life someday and you will be OK.
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reader, futurequite +, writes (20 December 2007):
futurequite is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok! here this, i didn`t sleep with anyone on a first neither second and either third date i dont EVER, but speak for your self as that adviser told you, for your info, yes i do respect myself, in fact i `m the most respectable person there is. Who are you to judge me on my actions, i came for advise here and this is what i get "shit" or should i say your opinion. This site is supposed to be helping people deal with certain situations, lets say i was so studing what you said, your words alone would make me do more to hurt myself even worst, but thank God i asked him for my own forgiveness i have no time to study a low life like you, Lets hope the tables don`t turn now". oh" and the guys i did sleep with were my experience through life meaning my boyfriends it was not like i my head was sooo light that i fell for each one i`m a very hard person, not because your life is ruin your anger to my response must be like wise, sometimes to chose a good someone you have to go through the world, but yes some people appare so nice but in the end they are the most sickest and slickest people to come across. So before you judge me ask questions to find the real truth bout someone and hope God forgive YOUR harsh words towards someone in need Mr. anonymous who wrote 18th Decemder
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reader, Star_07 + ♥, writes (20 December 2007):
I guess you still hang on to old victorian propaganda. Society had changes in a direction that I guess you dont understand. Since the sexual revolution in the 70's (at least in the US), saving yourself for marriage has been out the window. No respectful will marry her? Once again you are mistaken. You mean a Christian man that places moral judgement on others and damns every sinner he comes across. Beyond that crazy world, there are men that understand why such a young woman would find herself with 11 men at 19. Believe me, there are respectable men that would marry her, but she can forget about trying to be with someone as judgmental as a Christian. Okay another thing. Comparing animals and humans. I think you have missed the mark! Held back by your beliefs of course! The reason why humans have a more complex sexual nature is because we have the ability to think, love, and please one another. The only thing currently stopping us from engaging in complete hedonism as you would call it, is our morals OR we learn from past experience that casual sex is unfulfilling and we desire a stronger connection to someone, hence a relationship. It is okay! She is 19 and she will get it in time!
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reader, Uncle_Phil + ♥, writes (20 December 2007):
 I think some of the replies here are assuming that she's got 11 on the go at this moment in time. I take her to mean that she's had 11 so far in her life. At the age of 19 that's not all that many partners compared to some. Granted, it's more than others, but at 19 I'd probably outstripped her by about a dozen or so - I didn't actually keep a tally - and all over the world at that, including the USA. I must have been lucky in finding the one-in-ten.Phil
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (20 December 2007):
Still Anon,This girl was asking advice, and by her letter she already thinks its wrong.And by the way, if you read my reply back, I dont think I said it was right, I just said that we all make mistakes.So 90% of you in the Great old U.S.A are Christians, who believe that you should save yourself for the right one eh!. Presuming that you never make a mistake, and live your lives peacefully without harming others. Get real!!!.I have never heard such a load of rubbish in my life.Star 07 must be one of the 10% normal American's then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): Not at all anything to worry about, you're a young healthy woman, living her life, please don't worry.
I had ahd the same amount of partners at your age, those 16-21 years are the years you are meant to have fun and explore your sexuality and dating. Believe me it all calms down a lot from then onwards!
Have fun, use protection and enjoy yourself! x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): unbelievable. How can you both say that this kind of behavior is OK. It Isn't. Animals just do it with anything when they are in heat. Humans used to do that in the old tribal africa days. Once humans became civilized and developed morals, this kind of behavior is no longer tolerated in advanced countries. I didn't bring any kind of religion into this, but if I did, that would add even another argument in my favor. In the USA, around 90% of us are Christians, and believe in virginity at marriage. Most of us don't practice that, but at least keep our bodies for someone we care about and are in a relationship with, not as this lady did. Maybe you are right and I should offer constructive advice to her. Here it is: Stop sleeping around. Keep yourself and your body special until you meet someone special (and that means dating like 6 months or something, not the 2nd date). Hopefully, you can stop your self degrading behavior, save yourself for someone special, and they can look past your past. You still can eventually redeem your virtue if you want to and work at it. Good Luck!
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (19 December 2007):
Absolutely bloody right Star 07, I couldnt agree with you more. Who do you think you are (anon) telling this girl she is ruined for life and no one will want her. I suppose if she were a man it would be different. He would have been classed as a bit of a stud.
It makes me sick when people bring in religion. You all think that your whiter than white. And live your life without ever doing wrong to anyone else. Well you do!!! you shove your beliefs down peoples throats, and damn anyone that doesnt do things your way. Cant you just give the girl some advice without making her feel that she has acted terrible.
We all grow up and make mistakes, thats part of life. Looking down on other's is not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): to Star_07, I may not be a judge, but our society dictates what is moral and acceptable behavior. No respectfull man will want to marry a woman who has already slept with 11 guys, espectially by age 19. This is completely unacceptable behavior and is indiciative that the question poster has serious self-confidence and/or self-worth issues that she would give herself away so freely.Men and Women who are morally just keep there bodies for 'special' ones. That means a serious relationship, not get drunk/high and just do it on the 1st date. Any woman who put out for me on the 1st or 2nd date didn't last long with me because I knew I would never marry her, so why get serious. Like I said, chances are the quality of men that will put up with her past are going to be lower class like she is displaying.
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reader, Star_07 + ♥, writes (19 December 2007):
Male anon below me:
Who made you the judge of what makes a woman a whore? I am completely disgusted by your comment. Shame on you for acting so typical and uninformed. To say that no respectable man would marry her? Grow up! You must be a saint, right. I doubt it.
You ought to be kicked off this website for being so rude!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): The last poster is speaking for himself but he's not speaking for everyone out there. Some care a lot more than others. 11 is more than I would say is "good" though. In men's eyes, generally the fewer sex partners a woman has the better. We accept some sexual past in women for obvious reasons, but there is a major line in most people's minds between having sex in serious relationships versus non-serious stuff. The issue is not so much that you've had 11 partners specifically. But at your young age there is no way you've even had the time to get into more than 2 or 3 decent relationships yet. So you've got a longer-than-average list of partners already, and it's pretty much a total certainty that almost all of them were not real relationships. This is partly why you're getting criticized so heavily for that number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I'm sorry, but yes you are a whore and a slut. You should be only with men who you really care about, not give away your body.
Technically, you should only be with 1 man in your entire life (the man you marry), but in today's culture, people don't get married by 20 anymore, so maybe being with 2 or 3 guys would still be OK, but 11! and only 19 years old. Sorry to say, but you are ruined for life, no respectible man will marry you, you are destined to live in a trailer park with the kind of man who will take you now.
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reader, futurequite +, writes (18 December 2007):
futurequite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou know, thanks ALL of you guys for really helped me alot with this situation i had, i was really mess up but thanks, cause i did an hiv test the other day and it was thank God negitive, and a special thanks to jujuBee as you went through the same thing i understood my inner esteem.
And learned my lesson, now this experience will shape my mine in perfect form and i hope i will be able to tell people about it in a lesson to be learnt. THANKS!!!!"" TO ALL""
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reader, JujuBee +, writes (5 December 2007):
Hi, miss futurequite. =)I've had quite a few sexual partners and like you most of them have been my friends. I'm still in frequent, amiable contact with nearly all of them, male and female. My sex life has generally always been respectful (I only use the term "generally" because i was cheated on once) and very caring and satisfying, even when love wasn't involved, as it normally wasn't but we we didn't pretend.You and I have run the obvious risks of STD's and pregnancy, and being that no man can escape statistics we should both be very honest with ourselves and partners and EXTREMELY proactive.Aside from the physical risks, we run the social risks of being a "whore." Aforementioned by Lexo, sexual practices and standards are completely social. Generally, the company you keep (especially the partners) will make all of the difference in your opinion of yourself and your sex life.I've wondered if there was something wrong with me form time to time. In honest introspection, I don't feel bad about anything except the possibility of being considered slutty, but I don't value the opionions of others terribly much anyway. It really only comes down to what we think of ourselves, we just have to remember to be brutally honest with ourselves at all times and to always be willing to reevaluate our situations.The fact that you and I "defy" social roles and norms (though I'm not sure about the actual statistics) says something about us to begin with. I'll make what could be an unfair assumption, but I think that most women (and men) who have frequent casual sex in our society are acting on impulses grounded in other detrimental behaviors, like PhilManco's attention craving ex. But, I also do believe its possible for people to have fulfilling, honest sex lives like yours and mine have been, and obviously so if entire societies run contentedly as such (again, thank you, lexo.)I know I high a pretty high sex drive and I have for as long as I can recall. As a side note, although usually valid or at least demi-logical, I think that a lot of the social pressures and stigmas people associate with sex are pretty damaging to our ability to enjoy our sexuality. One in particular that has always bothered me is the association of "loss of innocence" with having sex or sexual desires. There's nothing wrong or dirty with sex inherently, and really it has the potential to be one of the most sincere and gratifying intimate experiences you can have with someone. Or just a lot of fun. =) I know for me, at least, that I've had sexual thoughts my entire life and being of age to act on them doesn't suddenly rendered you "impure."I suppose the most important aspects of your question would be the 1. why and wherefore of your sexual interludes in retrospect (do you have any bad or guilty feelings about the sex you've had?) and 2. having the proper foresight in the future(protection, STD screenings). Oh, and be very selective with your partners. It has made all of the difference in the world for me.
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reader, rusty  +, writes (16 November 2007):
ur just experimenting which u will appreciate later in life trust me
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reader, PhilManco +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Is it overdoing it haveing sex with 11 guys? In my quite humble opinion, YES.
This might not gain me many popularity points, but here goes. In my limited and solely personal experience, people of either gender who have had a large number of sexual partners have one thing in common: they're not good at relationships. In fact, I'm pretty convinced that, the more casual sex you have, the worse you become at maintaining a normal relationship.
I have one male acquaintance who has had more than 5 sexual partners (I don't really know or care how many he's had, but I do recall him bragging about breaking double digits). He's had that many because he cheats on every single woman he's with. It has gotten to the point were he quite simply cannot control his impulses. He's had so many sexual encounters that the impact of having intercourse with someone is completely lost on him. He's selfish and generally a bad boyfriend.
On a more personal note, I once dated a woman who had slept with close to 20 men before meeting me (she was in her mid-20s at the time). It quickly became apparent that she slept with so many men because she was DESPERATE for approval and acceptance. In fact, she once told me that, in college, she used sex to get attention when she was feeling bad about herself. Unfortunately, the more men she slept with, the worse she felt. Her "cure" was just making her "disease" even worse.
It practically goes without saying that the casual sex led to unwanted pregnancy which led to an abortion which led to an addiction to anti-depressants which led to more serious drug issues which led to more and more and more and more problems. This woman was a complete emotional wreck thanks to her "care-free" youth, and her needs were so great that it made being in a longterm relationship with her impossible.
My advice is this: treat your body with respect and others will do the same. There's nothing wrong with having sex, or even occasional casual sex, but sexual intercourse comes with a lot of baggage. It's not something to treat lightly.
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reader, hmm...  +, writes (14 November 2007):
THERE IS NO OVERDO IN MAKING LOVE!!! But it wasn't that, right? Of course it wasn't becouse non of those guys are around now when you feel bad!!!
Well... Even one time casual sex is overdue, even 11 times falling in love is too little...it just does not happen 11 times in life becouse it takes time, energy and breaking up is much harder then you think, even though it builds up your personality.
I agree with Irish49. Learn something from this! You feel pain, you need to change something in your life!
meet guys. Get to know a person first, leave sex for later.
good luck!
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reader, LEXO  +, writes (14 November 2007):
 No , it is not. You are not a whore. This can be done normally in my village, not only before marriage, even we do have a nice culture saying , if one lady is not sleping with a number of guys, it is beleived that she is not attractive, or she must have a problem.
I beleive , it might not be considered as a wise thing to do it for the sake of advantage or to hurt someone out of your relation ship, but it is to satisfy your natural desire , like eating for your stomach hunger.
best wishes for your future, and do not mix the sense of satisfaction with a special relationship.
Love you big, and wish to be the twevlth guy
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (14 November 2007):
 First of all, don't worry about what we think. You have had 11 sex partners in your past. Some people have had twice that number. None of us have the right to force you to feel ashamed for what has already happened in your past, just because some of the below Aunts may believe differently. We don't have the right to determine what was right and wrong. So sweety, stop doing this to yourself. Let go of the guilt that you carry around regarding your past sexual activity. Move ahead. And make decision in your future, that applies to the way your values and beliefs are now. We make decisions every day and we all learn from the results of those decisions and move on to the next decision. There is absolutely no reason to regret any decision you’ve ever made as long as you learned something from the experiences. It’s no one else’s business how many people you’ve had sex with in the past or will have sex with, the future. This is your life, live it in a way, that keeps you healthy and happy. All I will add, is please take care of yourself. But I will tell you judging from letters we get on the site, there are males out there that do judge a females, worthiness on the past number of sex partners. If you do run into a fellow like this, beware of him and watch that you don't get caught up in that trap of trying to live up to his values.
There are males out there that won't judge you on this...make sure for your own happiness-you find an open minded male whose ego isn't so fragile and he's not insecure. Those guys are out there..you just have to discern and discriminate and get to know them. Look after yourself. But go forward, dear-get out there and be happy with 'who you are!' Good luck, hun
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reader, CantHelpFallin +, writes (14 November 2007):
honey, you might as well kiss your reputation goodbye cause it's OUT the window
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (13 November 2007):
 im 20 and have slept with about the same or maybe more but i dont regret them. im not a whore and i have always stayed safe sexually so its no big probx
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reader, Star_07 + ♥, writes (13 November 2007):
Sex has not always been saved for marriage, thats just what religious institutions would like you to believe. And you think it wont be special when she actually finds the right guy? What a pessimist! When she finds the "right" guy, it will be special, it will be magical. She just has to know that she deserves more and have higher expectations for herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): sex has always been meant for marriage, with ONE person. if you're feelin guilty about it, it's cause deep down inside you know it's wrong. after that many times, when you do get married, sex with ur husband won't mean that much like it would had you waited. ur not respecting your own body enough to take care of it. go get tested!!
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reader, Star_07 + ♥, writes (12 November 2007):
I agree TELLULAH! Having sex with 11 guys in your life does NOT make you a whore. It just means you have made bad decisions. So take this key information and it apply it to the next time your in a situation. Get to know the person first and see if their intentions are real. Remember that you are worth a whole lot more than that and you deserve to be loved and respected. Hold your head up high and just learn from your mistakes. Who and how many you have been with is your personal information and you don't ever have to tell anyone or explain anything to anybody. You are who you are, and you've done what you've done, be proud. Now you should get yourself checked out to be sure all is well with your health, moving onward and upward.Cheers!
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Everyone will have a different opinion because everyone thinks differently. Personally, I believe you should wait till the right guy comes along. Now, I would be happy if you waited till marriage, but being how things have changed in today's world, I then would be happy if you waited till at least you know you will be in a committed relationship. I believe in morals firstly. To many STD's out there and you will never know if they have one unless you went to the doctor and see proof and to many lies you will hear just to get you in bed. Next I believe that this just tells the guy you are an easy lay. Do you really want a man to think of you as that? That is just something you should think about. This is just me being very honest because I am much, much older then you and believe me, no man wants to be with a woman who has slept around with every man out there and settle down with her one day.
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reader, faith scott boreanaz +, writes (12 November 2007):
 I have had sex with alot of guys! and yes from past experiance i am gonna say its not wise to but if the guy means alot to you and isnt a one night stand or some hottie then you may consider it. remember to be stronger than your desires and emotions because they blind us from the truth.all the best, faith x x x
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reader, keely-h +, writes (12 November 2007):
 i am glad you have got the time to meet up with eleven guys do they know what you are doing ?you must be a attractive girl for or thease guys you have but yes i think you are sleeping with too many boys you are likley to contract a std.or get yourself pregnante best whishes xxx p.s i agree with one other aunt they probaly dont respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): Yes, it's overdoing it. You shouldn't be sleeping with more than 1 man at a time. But in your country, sleeping with 11 men at one time may be a common, acceptable thing. Here is the US, it's not.
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reader, TELLULAH + ♥, writes (12 November 2007):
Hi,
Its not wise, but it doesnt make you a whore honey. So dont beat yourself up over it.
I may be reading between the lines, but do you look into having sex as love. Its seems that you may be having sex with a lot of diferent guys, mistaking this for genuine affection and being let down. This is why you are feeling bad about yourself.
You dont have to sleep with everyone that you date. It should be special for you, as you are a sensitive person. In the future hold out, till you are sure that that the man really cares about you. And always, ALWAYS, use protection. You are only young and you could pick up so many infections, that could ruin your future health.
Take care XX Tellulah
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reader, Dustin587 +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Personally, I don't find it to be that big of a deal, but some guys do. However, by having sex with a large number of people, you are putting yourself at risk for STDs. Just be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): I would say that's overdoing it, I agree with mallorie410 you should remember what could happen and always take the necessary precautions.
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reader, mallorie410 +, writes (12 November 2007):
Umm i wouldnt say over doing it but i would tell you that it isnt wise or smart. If you end up pregnant? with a STD or AIDS?? You have to be careful.. If this is something you are going to continue to do i would get a journal or monthly planner and write down the dates i slept with these men; just incase!!
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