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writes:Okay I'm currently 17 and turning18 in about 2 months, about April last year I was seeing this guy who was 21 but cause we were both busy we sorta drifted apart, he recently started to speaking to me again and were getting on really well, only thing is he actually now teaches at my college. I'm not sure if it's the same everywhere but I know that dating a teacher in high school is illegal for obvious reasons, but I've left compulsory education, so I wasn't sure if it's still okay to date him as it's not compulsory, does that make sense? Would either of us get into trouble? Especially seeing as our courses are nothing alike, he does IT and stuff and mines all health and social so we're not even near each other at the college, if anyone had info that would be great! Reply to this Question
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reader, Teenage-Rebel +, writes (15 December 2013):
 It is against school policy majority of the time and although there is nothing wrong due to the age, the guy can still end up losing his job due to an "abuse of trust/postition" as although he is not your teacher, he is still responsible if anything were to happen.
Don't take the risk, don't date your teacher
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (14 December 2013):
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2013): If you drifted apart, what makes him so appealing now? The fact that it is likely someone could get into trouble?
He will likely have issues with school ethics policies. Most schools forbid faculty and students to date. If you are aware of such rules; why are you suddenly so interested to break them?
Being a young girl, the excitement of a young man risking his profession and livelihood for you may sound simple and romantic. If the idiot is willing to jeopardize his employment, knowing it is against school policy; more power to the both of you.
I guess what it boils down to is, how much he needs his job?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 December 2013):
 Whether he is a Teacher or a TA (teacher's assistant) most schools do not allow it.
Like MissTellAll said it runs a risk of favoritism, but also of a fairly unfair match in the "relationship equality" - because you CAN date a teacher to get better grades, and a teacher CAN "date" a student to get sex, but when the relationship ends it can go really south, and a student can ruin the teachers career, and the teacher can ruin the students grades.
Might have to check school policy first. Because I'm sure he rather NOT lose his job.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 December 2013):
 I don't know about your school, because there always are exceptions to any rule, but in general relationships between teachers and students are against school policy for ethical reasons, it has got nothing to do with legal age. It's the same reason why if you are a physician you are not supposed to date one of your patients, you have to refer them to a colleague before dating them . Not that all physicians abide by this rule, nor all teachers, but, in theory ,it could cost the physiciam his license and the teacher his JOB. Indeed this rule is , at least officially , so common... that it was on even in my very laid back, anything-goes acting school- which was far from compulsory education. But there too , at least in theory, there was an official ban on relationships between teachers and students.
So, check the school policy first, yes hypotethically he could get in trouble. And, since anyway young love does not care much about rules and regulations... at least be wise , keep it on the down low and leave your effusions for when you are not on school grounds.
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reader, Lieutenant +, writes (14 December 2013):
He would have to make the decision if he wants to take that risk. Number 1, sixthform/college is now compulsory in the UK i.e. education is compulsory up to the age of 18 now. You need to be updated on the decisions being made by parliament. Number 2, there are usually always rules (even up to university level) that prohibits teachers/professors and students from dating. Granted at university level, some people go against the rules, but it's usually a secret. Therefore, there is more likely than not a rule in your college/sixthform that prohibits that kind of relationship with a teacher. If you started dating him and the school authorities found out, you would walk out scot free because you're still a minor and he could lose his job. You could be jeopardising his career, even if he chooses to date you. Once a teacher has that kind of record attached to their employment history, getting employed is nearly impossible. College only lasts 2 years; I advise you to wait before trying to strike up any old feelings. If at the end you still like him, then by all means contact him and see if he's interested and single.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (14 December 2013):
 It's usually against policy in schools whenever the teacher is your current teacher, because it runs the risk for favoritism.
Two consenting adults who don't have any professional ties between them- I see nothing wrong with it. I assume there may be an age difference, so be cautious about that because it can cause problems. If you can work that out and it isn't an issue, then more power to you. Hope this helps!
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