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writes:So how do you feel about being broken up with by text message?To me there are two types of breakup:1. You care about the person and you either would consider still talking or even getting back together.2. You just want to burn your bridges, the town or even the planet (whatever it takes)to get away from the other person.Possibility number 1.for me requires the person to either tell me face to face or by actually speaking to the real me (not my voicemail) on the phone.That means that possibility 2 is voicemail, email or text message.Weasling off and not talking to me again does not piss me off as much as a text message.You don't know where a person is or what they are doing when they get the message. What if they are just getting bad news about a family member dying and then they look down and there is a text message! The 'Oh look, grammys dead and I am dumped all in the space of seconds'. There is no good way to break up but there are some bad ways that make things worse. If you want the other person to still talk to you afterwards or you might want to get back together with them hurting them, making them feel stupid, or just getting the message through the wrong way can kill your chances.So get you courage up and do it in person. Doing the right thing can be the hardest.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Giving anyone bad news via text is just tacky. You don't say how involved you were, but I suspect this person just can't handle confrontation of any kind and perhaps didn't really value the relationship to begin with. I would've at least gotten a phone call, and heard it from their lips rather than an e-mail or a text. But it is what it is, try to put it behind you and move on. The loss is on their end, both with etiquette and pure human kindness.
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reader, Keira9312 +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Breaking up with your partner in a text shows him/her that you were scared to express how you felt. It might also make them think that you just weren't ready for the relationship thing, and breaking up in person would make you stutter and turn red giving them the impression that you were lying. It also puts the person down; they might have felt like you were afraid of them, or didn't respect their feelings enough to sit and talk to them about it. They wouldn't be able to figure out what went wrong, especially if you just chose to break up.
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reader, deedee64 +, writes (27 April 2010):
Text msg is no good and it better off to face to face.. it more like mature... When I was young & it was 2 weeks early before the wedding showers & he called it off over the phone! That was the worst expericne in my life!! I never saw him again that was 28yrs ago! so You better off to see him in person.... That my best advice to you...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 April 2010):
I think text message is the lowest way to dump a person.
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