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male
age
51-59,
*hawncaff
writes:OK, I have another question.I have a friend who is female who I have a bit of a crush on. There are problems with the relationship as I stated in my other question which I recently posted. But throughout our friendship, I want to set boundaries. If it was a friendship then I would keep it a friendship and not try to flirt, touch her too much, or call her with endearing names.Yet, I see her other male friends cross boundaries. One guy calls her "baby" all the time, another hugs her a lot, another even once slept in her bed with her when he was staying over. She seems okay with all of this. I began wondering if maybe my whole notion of maintaining boundaries was stupid, and that a mix of flirtatiousness or affection in a male-female friendship was okay--and may even enhance the friendship.So...My question-to the females in particular-is:Do you like it when guy friends get physical with you, and flirt with you? Or do you prefer it when someone like me maintains his boundaries and does get flirty? Would you prefer a friend like me or a friend like the other friends this girl has?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): I think it is individual dependant~
I am by nature a giver ((on every level)), hence my affectionate nature ((which at times can be just a little too much for some, which I completely accept and respect..BUT..unfortunately for a ridiculous fear of offending me, the person uncomfortable by such excess affection will refrain from alarming me of the annoyance and so only builds up internal anger as I continue giving them excess affection, completely ignorant to how much it sometimes annoys them. ~Honesty is best~
At anyrate, given my affectionate, giving nature, I can really be OVER THE TOP when it comes to flirting, particulary if it's directed to one of an intimate interest.
I have always known myself to be molded with a dominant flirt gene, but up until this year I would internalize it as I was too shy and embarrassed to actually write it or verbalize it to the target. This all changed when the first and only person I have evr fallen in love with entered my life ((which is a bizarre union and consequence that I still don't understand, as it doesn't even seem rational..BUT...))
At anyrate the individual whom I reference above is the source who magically provoked and enabled me to outwardly write and verbalize my flirtatious gene ((Ummmmmmmm....))
So Yes, I flirt now...BUT...when I do it...it is thoughts of this individual who triggers, fuels and ummmmmmm...LICK!
Ummmmmmmmmm..((PUNKIE!))
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