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Is it ok to pay for sex as long as you're very careful?

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Question - (13 July 2007) 13 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I am male, who is mssing sex. is it okay to pay for a shag, as long s you are very careful..

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A male reader, Cris United Kingdom +, writes (25 July 2007):

My own opinion - I would never pay for it with my hard-earned spending cabbage. Without any emotional involvement, sex becomes just another bodily function. But with involvement it takes it to a whole new level... Just my thoughts...

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (25 July 2007):

eddie agony auntActually, having a one night stand with someone is risky...BUT...in my opinion not as risky as someone who has sex for a living, 7 days a week. Think about the numbers involved there.

If she's OK with it, I question the judgment of both of you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007):

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Hi Okay, this is my opinion....

Having a one night stand with someone is just as risky as hiring an "Escort", if not even more so.

What if your girlfriend lives in another country and you can't see her for a long time. I must say, that I have been truthful about this from the start before our relationship started.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007):

The next woman in your life will be very turned off by this and if you dont tell her, you will be keeping things from her from the start and thats really not a good start is it. think about it, do it if you dont ever want a proper relationship again.

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (15 July 2007):

deejuliet agony auntNo.

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A female reader, cockneybabe United Kingdom +, writes (14 July 2007):

cockneybabe agony aunthi ive just joined this an adult site.

it looks ok, just about to do my own post, babe dont pay for it im sure there will be enough willing people to help you out ;o)

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A female reader, sillzsarah United Kingdom +, writes (14 July 2007):

sillzsarah agony auntgo for it boy you know you want sex but the question is do you really need to pay for it? I mean theres plenty more fish in the sea why use ur hard erned money to pay for a lady who dont give a s**t about you

thats my advice i hope u will find it helpful xxx

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (14 July 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntFirstly, before you get into the morals of it, find out if it is legal in the area you live in. In some places, the act itself may not be illegal, but the elements surrounding it are illegal.

If you find you can do it legally, then you can consider the morals of it. I know many men that have lost their viriginities this way, but very few of them feel emotionally satisfied.

The other thing I would suggest you consider is the following:

Paying for sex will NOT make you more comfortable with women nor sex. It will become a crutch. It is easier to pay for it than to get over the anxiety of approaching women you would like to meet. In the event that you finally do meet a girl that you like, you will be just as nervous as if you never paid for the sex. It is only at that point you learn that the women you paid for sex were not responding to you, they were responding to money. Thus you have no real idea of how a woman will react to you when there is no money at play.

I work with many men that have been paying for sex for years, yet although they feel sexually satisfied for short periods of time, they are emotionally drained and empty for real love.

Best way to combat that path, is not to go down it.

-Frank B Kermit

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A female reader, Cateyes United States +, writes (14 July 2007):

Cateyes agony auntNo, I don't feel it is ok. Why don't you meet some nice lady who would be interested in you, spend the money on her out for dinner and who knows after that? Are you just not wanting a "real" relationship or what? Nice lady or hooker, you can still get an STD to even HIV...unless you have each tested and see the results. Remember, we sleep with everyone they slept with! Also, it would be GREAT if a woman didn't have to go that measure, especially when she is more then likely trying to get her fix!!! (drugs)

I wish you luck in meeting a woman who will enjoy you, for you!

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (14 July 2007):

eddie agony auntI don't have a problem with the idea but think about it. Break down the process.

You pay for sex with your hard earned money.

You take your clothes off in front of a stranger who doesn't like yo and wished you were not there.

You bounce around of top of her while she pretends to be interested.

Not appealing to me.

On the other hand.......Go out and meet a woman who might be interested in a one night stand or relationship.

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (14 July 2007):

love-him agony auntHey, Truthful, in my point of view, i think its wrong.. i wouldnt say it's ok..

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A male reader, leonard j.Douglas Philippines +, writes (14 July 2007):

Well, You could look at it this way. How would you know that it was safe to have sex with a paid partner? It has been said that every woman who has had sex unprotected passs on to every man who uses her all of the relationships that she has ever engaged in. Same-O, Same-O for a man using women. Something to think about.

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A female reader, neonpinkngooey United States +, writes (14 July 2007):

neonpinkngooey agony auntwell..... no. but i am from the US, so i am not sure how laws and culture apply in the UK. why don't you woo a lucky lady into bed with you, instead? anyway, would you feel better paying for sex, or knowing that the power of your own persuasion led someone into bed with you?

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