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reader, gaurav1jha  +, writes (17 February 2010):
 Well, we have lots of differences but I think I am going to answer you from your mentality.
so here it is:-
Practically, its okay, If the people depicted in the video are aware of you viewing it.
But, Its Wrong cause
1. Its crime in India to see porn below 18 years :P
2. Its another crime to record the explicit images of anyone below 21 years.
3. Where is your moral thinking?
And if you both would have been above 18, I would have advised you differently.
Conclusion:- AT age of 16-17 You and your boyfriend should concentrate on somethings more important in life, rather then all these things. Develop your values and grow up as two mature adults.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah so it is!but now a new problem has occured.he says its not at all harm to see the bp and mms of his friend having sex with his gf.but i think its wrong.what say?
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reader, gaurav1jha +, writes (16 February 2010):
Yeah ! If thats the point of view then i totally respect you opinion !
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dun think thats unusual..at all..we r just asking something thats very common.atleast we r just talking and not appying in real ife!
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reader, gaurav1jha +, writes (16 February 2010):
Pretty Extraordinary Situation!
Well... I agree with marie!
If everyone is happy then there's no problem.
Stay Cheerfull :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell umm...thats what i didn't had phone sex because my heart stopped me. but i do talk nonveg with my friends like what's the size of urs p***is.how much time u masturbate a day..i think this is common and my bf knows.he said why should he have a problem with this.he said m the 1 who is talking n if i m comfortable then whats the problem.
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reader, gaurav1jha +, writes (15 February 2010):
Are You From India?
well... " marieclaire"
Indians have their own made syllables... like they term Errotic talks as "Non-Veg Talks"
India is a conservative country so most of the girls are comfortable with phone sex rather then the real one.
well.. The case is quite same but i am at the place of your boyfriend.
My south indian GF used to talk errotic things with her one of friends and i initiated the call details subscriptions.. and latter came to find out the whole story and the errotic messages she sent.
and yeps You know how it felt? I Got frustrated from inside, I went into depression and lost 910kg weight. I was shocked after knowing that - the girl who was so simple and cultural isn't the one from inside.
Well. i am too from india and I understand the proximity between genders in this conservative country
and my request is to you... Please STop it... it would hurt him like hell...
anyways Read it... heres the similar story
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-her-and-miss-her-so-much.html
Well... My advice would be...
"Relationship is based on the values like trust and respect and the time you spent in a relationship you should keep this values in your mind
well there's a FINE line that one shouldn't cross"
SO,you have 4 options
1. Either Stop the phone sex with him and withdraw contacts.
2. or Dump your boyfriend and have phone sex(Not a Wise Option for you)
3. Or Speak it to your boyfriend about it and get into an open relationship (which isn't usually seen for India)
4. or Find someone else with whom you can stay honest and enjoy sex (In what ever ways you can)
Stay Cheerful...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell actually i wrote the question wrong...i should have asked whether its ok to talk nonveg with my classmate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): just like every one else said it is wrong and if it was the other way round you wouldnt like it,
but if you really enjoy doing it instead of stoping why not ask him if he will do it with you instead of the other guy
then its a win win situation
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 No!
Not okay. Either you're committed to your boyfriend, or you're not, and while you may not actually be in bed with someone else, it's still cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): hey i don't get this well you have a great boy friend who loves you and the thing you're doing is called CHEATING!!! the point is stop doing what you're doing befor it's going to be too late and don't tell your boy friend about it you'll hurt him try to spend more time with him ...good luck
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Hi Hunny
I havent read any replys so Im answering your question. in my own words..
The thing here is you say you are inlove with your b/f so why would you need this excitment with another male. I would say to you, If your b/f was doing this how would it make you feel and if you search your heart and think of the feelings that would give you, Then you have your answer...I feel your fella would be very hurt by this.
Always in life put yourself in the other persons shoes as a bit of fun to you would be crushing o him and I think sweetheart you would feel the same if he was doing this...Please take care and if you love you b/f dont risk the chanceof loosing what you have..With love n hugs MANDY XXXXXXXXX
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 February 2010):
No it is not. It's cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): What do you mean by friendly phone sex? Is it just joking about sex or making sexual comments to each other? Is it obvious that it is just talk and that neither of you would really want sex with the other? If the answer to the last 2 questions is yes then I don't consider it sex in any way.
Now, is it cheating? As some others have said, if your bf knows about it and is fine with it then it is not cheating. If he does not know then I guess it could be considered cheating, although I'm not sure that I would consider it cheating. I have conversations with a couple of women like I describe above and my wife knows and even reads our IM messages. She laughs at a lot of what we say. She is fine with it and I would be OK if she wanted to do something like that as long as I could see what she is doing.
I think that your bf should know what you are doing. What if he finds out from someone else. Your friend could tell someone about it and it could get back to your boyfriend and then it would likely cause trouble between you and him. Things like that that get out can quickly escalate in what the real story is and it could sound much worse by the time he hears about it.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (11 February 2010):
Ummm I don't get it? If you have a great BF who loves you and you love him... why on earth do you even WANT to be having phone sex with some other dude? Don't say anything to your BF. Just stop. Find something else to talk about.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 1. Unless your boyfriend would be cool with it- NO.
2. Unless you'd be okay if he did it to you- NO.
3. Phone sex is still sex. Oral sex is still sex. Sex is sex is sex. Sex outside a committed, monogamous relationship is cheating. It's pretty black and white.
Sex is serious business, over the phone or not. It isn't fun like Monopoly is fun.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Hun, no it is not alright unless you are doing it infront of your bf... it can be considered as a form of cheating.......
How would you feel if you found out your bf was having phone sex with another girl... yes - you would be devastated so dont do it to him!
Honeygirl
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 February 2010):
 No. Unless you think you can do it in front of your boyfriend. You already know it's wrong.
Consider what values you want to have and you want in a partner. Same with morals. Get some.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (11 February 2010):
 I really don't understand how you can think its "just in fun". If you are in a "committed" relationship as you say, why are you doing this? Obviously you must feel some guilt if you're on here asking about it, so don't you too think its wrong? Would you still think it was ok and just fun, if your guy told you he was having phone sex? I doubt it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): No, I think thats not right It's still consider Cheating. why would you have phone sex with your classmate? I think you shouldn't have phone sex with your classmate anymore because it would cause trouble with you and your boyfriend relationship if he finds out.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Phone sex. Whats the point of that.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (11 February 2010):
 As a rule, if what you're doing can in any way be described with the word "sex", whether it's oral sex, or phone sex, or sexting, or cybersex, or even passing sexy notes, it's considered inappropriate to do with someone other than your boyfriend. Would you really want your boyfriend to call some other girl, talk sexy to her, fantasize with her, and listen to each other as they orgasm? Wouldn't YOU feel hurt?
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