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writes: hi. my boyfriend and i have been going out for 8 months. hes 17 and im turning 16 in two weeks. we have been naked together and such, and are very comfortable together. i want to have sex with him, but i dont want to give him a blowjob. i dont feel that its dirty, i just dont feel comfortable "servicing" him, so to speak, and having him watch, especially since he feels uncomfrotable reciprocating. is it normal and ok for me to have sex and never give a blowjob? this seems to be very important to guys, and i dont want to feel obligated to whoever i marry or whatnot.thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006):
You are too young. I dont think that there ought to be any 'expectation' of anything at this point.
When you are older there may be a different answer
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reader, bex108 +, writes (23 November 2006):
you should do whatever it is you want to do. Dont let anyone force you into anything. if your boyfriend fully respects you he should understand if its not what you want. it isnt wrong at all some men dont like going down on women it ok to feel that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): oh i feel the same about this as well as my bf doing it to me, i also donn't feel comfortable about giving him a handjob and vice versa. If my bf isn't happy with that then he knows where the door is, but i have a lot more to ofer him "pleasure" wise so i don't think there is a problem with it.
You should feel uncomfortable or pressured to do by your bf. you should do and not do what you like.
of course it's "ok" for you to say no don't feel like it isn't, this is you and your own oppinions and such and you shouldn't be persuaded into doing otherwise. DON'T feel obligated if your bf or husband doens't understand then they don't care enough about you and the way you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): Good Question i don't know if this helps but i will try.
guy's like myself look at blow job's as a gift. well i do it's something i can't do so i except it from my girl. i don't know all guy's but i know myself blow job's are very important. u say u don't want him watching whilie you " service him " why don't u try it in the dark and see if you feel more comfortable about it. if not explan to him and maybe he will understand.
i read somewhere girl's don't give oral sex 2 there men and it get's me thinking why would i be with someone who except's oral pleasure's and don't give back. u say blow job's are dirty ok that's fine but what if your boyfriend say's going down on you is dirty?
is it normal i don't think so but i've been wrong before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): you know what i completly agree with you, i thought i was the only one like that. i think you should do whatever YOUR comfortable with and if they have a problem with that then they dont respect you. you should talk to your partner though see what he says and take it from there.
follow your heart and your gut.
best of wishes
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