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anonymous
writes:I have had sexual imagination with my mother and older females i know, is this normal?i havnt' told her or performed it.i think there's something wrong here..pls be honest. thank you Reply to this Question |
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reader, kittikat  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 I'm not a man, so I don't know if this is normal...But I do know that our minds are freaky things. You can't help what creeps in and I agree with Waz, it's a development issue. Sex and nurturing come hand in hand, it's a human thing. Those women probably always made you feel good and comfortable and as you grow sexual thoughts start to develop. It seems logical that you would associate those feelings with maternal figures. It's how you process it that matters. Don't feel guilty or ashamed, that's what leads to problems later on in life. As stated previously, your thoughts are your own. Of course you shouldn't act on them, if you did that would indicate a deeper problem. If you feel a compulsion to act, seek help. I'm sure that pretty soon your senses will blossom and you'll be noticing and fantasizing about lots of different things. Have fun on your journey ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): immediate family memebers... heck no. i wouldn't think of such things... although i could of my teacher and my friends' mom. i wouldn't actually do it in realife unless... the teacher made the first move
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): it would be more helpful if we can lessen this young mans guilt rather than add to it with religious preaching. we don't want to give our young life-long trauma over incidents that are common for adolescents. When you are at puberty your feelings start with a sexual blank sheet and you add your fantasy's to it from a completely inexperienced viewpoint...it is just a learning curve. and there is nothing to worry about.
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reader, selene21682 +, writes (21 March 2008):
 no! dont listen to this crazy people saying its ok cause inside you know is not why would you post this question then? because you know it is a crazy thing to like your mom,look what you can do is start going to a christian church,and pray god for forgiveness ,this is a bad spirit dont let it get to you , there is a lot of freaks out there you dont want to be one of them! so stop thinking this is just wrong!
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reader, Mumknowsbest +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Fantasys are just that. We all have them. My fantasys as a teenager were wild and wierd. Even adults fantasise about the forbidden or very naughty unless they have no imagination! Nothing to worry about at all. The wilder the better. *g*
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reader, WizardOfWaz + ♥, writes (18 March 2008):
 Perfectly normal for some one of your age to have all sorts of extreme fantasies. They are completely harmless and a natural part of your developing sexual awareness. There is nothing wrong with you at all, although some adults forget that they too had their wildest fantasies during the earlier years of their sexual developement. But they are just fantasies so just enjoy them and dont worry too much about what anyone else thinks. Your thoughts are your own private property no one elses.
Regards
Waz
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Hunny just to explain I was refering to the mother fantasy sweetheart, not other women in general if you want to talk message me anytime hun ok TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 This is what is known as Oedipus Rex syndrome.
Oedipus Rex was a king who ended up accidently killing his father (I think) and then accidently having sex with this mother.
In the end he kills himself I think (when he finds out what he did), but this is a lot of blah blah blah......
Anyways, maybe you just have a hot mom. Maybe you are just into older females.
Here's my advice to you: fantasies are just fantasies. Maybe in the future you could marry someone who is older (when you get older of course), if these fantasies still persist.
You have my condolences on the confusion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Read the post "Unsure about my sexuality..." for my reply. It sounds similar to yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): At your age, maybe, but other problems are present. Determining what these maybe will require you think why you do what you do. Is there something missing in your life. Many times, humans act out in abnormal behavior because there "normal human needs" are not being met, and there is also the immature wants.
If your lonely, need friends, you might wish to ask someone at school or a parent you feel comfortable talking with.
Male hormones can be also a part of the equarion (puberty).
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reader, Stroller +, writes (16 March 2008):
 There's nothing wrong with fantasies, so don't get hung up about it. You might not choose to discuss the incestuous aspects of your kink with your huntin', fishin', truck-drivin' drinking buddies, but far more blokes than you imagine have a thing for older women - I'm sure you'll be able to easily find some (older ladies) as soon as you come of age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Have you a father in your life sweetheart, you probably wont have a clue who im talking about but then again you may..... Sigmund Freud (way before your time and mine for that matter) who was a austrian neurologist and phychiatrist worked on this theory with young boys...And hunny if there is any thing in your life that has been painfull or hurt you that could have started these feeling, Can you think of something that may have started this off....? YOU SHOULD NEVER ACT UPON THEM!!!! but see a counsellor and talk about them with someone as there is an underlying cause for this...Its not right sweetheart and you need to talk to someone, Its worrying you and deep down you know its not right...Fantasys are fine as we grow it happens naturally its part of the growing experience, If you can get to talk about this now it will help as you get older and im sure as you grow you will be just fine and find girls other than your family members attractive...So if you can, Please go to a doctor and ask to see a counsellor as this I feel leads to another underlying problem you may be needing help with, Its all confidentual and you need tell no one why you wish to talk with someone just that you have some problems at this moment in time and you feel it is the best thing to deal with them, I hope you have someone you can talk to who can point you in the right direction sweetheart someone you can open up with and trust just to say you need to speak with a doctor/counsellor as your having a few problems that need addressing hunny...PLEASE TAKE CARE I DO HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER SOON AND GET THIS HELP WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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