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writes:Is it normal to feel very little attachment to your past? like, out of sight out of mind? i left where i had been living for seven years, and my past there feels like a nightmare or it feels neutral or like something i don't have a desire to hold onto. in seven years of living there, i have very little fond memories of it, and few good memories of the friends i made there (but there are some). it almost feels like i didn't belong or truly like where i was, so there is not a point in feeling anything about it, nor a point in reminscing. i did make friends there, some of which i still keep in touch with, and i fell in love with people there, and everything else, but nothing felt so very real to me. i usually love to be in relationships, but when i was there, i avoided dating people just so i knew i'd never have to 'settle' there with someone who loved the area we were living in (it's known as an area that many people fall in love with, but some people don't feel it, like me). the second i got out of there, i allowed myself to start a relationship with someone, and felt reconnected more to myself and to life again. has this happened to anyone else...where a gap of seven years feels like not much, and you don't feel much attachment or love for it and the people that you met while in that phase? what is the purpose of such a phase of life?
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reader, sarcy24  + ♥, writes (15 October 2009):
 Not at all if you were unhappy there. I categorise all the things that made me very sad where I grew up and along the way into one area in my head and never even think about it at all. I couldn't wait to leave where I grew up and the moment I left my life started. Old friends have tried to track me down but I have no wish to be reminded of any of it. Well out of sight, out of mind. I would imagine psychologists would say it was very unhealthy and will have to worked upon in the future but at the moment i have no reason to think about it at all. If you are happy now I see no point in reminiscing over years in your life that bought you little or no pleasure how ever long they were.
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reader, queenbee21 +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Who knows what normal is. I sometimes can't forget my past. I wish all the time I could go back. That's my normal.
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