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Is it normal that he's always hard around me?

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Question - (3 October 2016) 5 Answers - (Newest, 4 October 2016)
A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

He loves me and has proven that to me so many times through his actions. I have no doubt in my heart that we connect very well. I wrote a post here before about my boyfriend not taking me out or do special things for me. We spoke about it and he has responded very well now I am getting small gifts that I used to not get, we go out, he even made the sweetest video with our best moments pictures my favourite song as the back ground sound and messages confessing his love for me so he spoils me. Everything is going smoothly, thank you, but can I ask? Is it normal that my boyfriend is always hard around me? We normally see each other on weekends and when we do ,if ever we decide to spend all day in doors we get to have sex more than six times that day. The next morning if he slept over or I did, he wants more. Is it normal? I am the one who normally initiates a sex break because I can't keep up with his stamina.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (4 October 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYip very normal at your age. I am glad he is treating you better. If you don't want to have sex as much as he does then simply say no, if you want to have sex six times a day then go for it, but don't feel pressured. Everybody has different sex drives.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (4 October 2016):

CindyCares agony auntYes, it is absolutely normal at his age.

Although, I must say, six times a day ? Wow, what a stamina, and what a high libido, even in his age range.

Don't be fazed, and don't feel bad, if you can't always keep up , or feel amorous six times a day. There's nothing wrong with you. I don't think there would be a lot of people who could match that kind of sexual appetite, so if occasionally you want to give it a miss and just cuddle, or , even better, go outside to do something fun and non-sexual ,that's fine. If he cares about you he will not pout about it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2016):

Yep, it's quite normal. You're not always aware of it, and you shouldn't dwell on it. It's embarrassing and very private. He's very young and quite attracted to you. It's a guy thing, and it's not too lady-like for girls to call a guy out on it; unless he's being crude about it.

It will level-off, and will not always happen. That doesn't mean he's cheating, or interested in another girl. Erections are spontaneous and sometimes not easy to control. As a guy gets older, he learns more self-control and he shows his respect by keep it concealed when it's not appropriate.

It's impolite to constantly check, and it appears crude on your part always checking it out. You don't have to accommodate him for sex every-time he wants it. If you do, boys will start to get over-used to it; and lose his interest and start looking elsewhere. Sex should not be used as a tool to hold on to a boyfriend; because if he wants it from somewhere else, and doesn't care enough about you, he'll still seek it elsewhere.

Your guy seems to care for you. Just don't always give-it-up every-time he expects it, and always use protection. You take responsibility for your own body, and insist on using condoms. He can't get pregnant, and you don't want to catch an STD infection.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 October 2016):

Honeypie agony auntIT sounds pretty "normal" for a guy that age who is around a woman he is attracted to and care for. Given that, you only see each other on the weekend it's not strange that he is all over you.

HOWEVER, DO NOT let him become a total "sex-pest". IF you WANT sex 6 times in a day, then by all means GO for it, if you don't... then tell him. I'd make sure he knows that it's a difference in libido, not attraction.

And if it's too much for you GET out of the house when you spend time together. Do things OUT of the house.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (3 October 2016):

N91 agony auntSounds like he just has a high sex drive. It's very normal for him to be hard around you most of the time, especially if you're in the bedroom.

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