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writes:is it normal that after youve gone out with people and had an enjoyable time that when you come back home and are on your own that u feel really lame and low???thanks Reply to this Question |
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reader, bitterblue  + ♥, writes (4 September 2007):
 It can happen. Maybe you went to that party and felt you owed it to your friends to upkeep the atmosphere enjoyable and deep inside you felt from the beginning something was missing, but when you're on your own you can't pretend, and if you did so earlier it was intended to please the friends? I'm guessing you may have in fact other concerns than them or simply go through a rather "contemplative" status that makes you dwell on things? If you get sad for no reason, it could be a form of depression. If not... maybe you're thinking too much. It's possible to feel sad after an activity you felt rather constrained to participate to when your mind had other concerns? Identify what is missing, what bothers you. Don't ponder over the sadness itself, describing it and so on, rather think how to eliminate it, learn to administer it... by dealing with the causes. And please write again? because we can misinterpret your problem lacking the details? I saw it this way. All the best.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Dont feel alone here. I know Ive been there and judging by the responses so have many others.
This still happens to me from time to time. For me, I think its simply a matter of socializing with people VS actually connecting with people. There is a difference.
Being social can be like driving in traffic. Theres alot of people around but everybody is in theyre own little bubbles. Actually connecting with people is like having them in the seat next to you.
If you get home and feel down or empty maybe you just didnt get to really find common ground with the people you were around. Thats a tall order in day to day life so dont think it should be a given simply because you are out having fun with others.
It could be more than all that but Im just shooting from the hip based on myself. Hope you see that you have more people around who can understand how your feeling at the very least.
Take care!
Duce
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I feel bad and good depending on the circumstances after i had a good time.
Best thing to do is try and have a better time soon.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (4 September 2007):
 i can really relate to what you feel here! im a student at uni and when im with my friends up at uni i have an amazing time and i feel so happy...then during holidays i come back home living by myself and im all alone and i feel very low because all i want is to be back with my friends in my happy place!! just remmember that there will be plenty of happy times aswell and just try to focus on that really! keep yourself occupied to take your mind off it!
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reader, unluckyboy +, writes (4 September 2007):
ye that is true it kind of happens. I feel really low because it was a great time out. What i always do is take pictures if i'm out with mates. Or just give a camera to someone else to keep takin pictures so you have good memories even when you come home.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (3 September 2007):
 I think everyone is different. When i come home and i have had a really good time out socialising and things i am normally in a really good mood, and look forward to going out again. I don't think its odd, or anything to worry about, as i say everyone is different.
Like hlskitten says, just remember there will be other good times to come.
Take care
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (3 September 2007):
yeah because it always seems to pass quickly when you have had a good time, but look at it this way: there are new outings to look forward to!
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hi wallacda,
Yes i think so, you've had a good time and its ended. Just gotta remember there will be other good times to come!
C xxxx
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