A
male
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:Hey,Do you think it is fair to use my ex, to start a relationship with a new girl?There is this girl that I like, who has virtually finished with her boyfriend of 3 years now.. but she doesn't know that I like her.Basically, I've been saying that I am finding it hard to get over my ex, when I am pretty much over her.. just so I can get closer to this new girl. I feel a bit harsh doing it, but it works, as it gives us common ground to talk about, and she has also said that she will help me get over her, and that we can hang out more.What I'm trying to say, is that is it fair to say I still have feelings for my ex, as a way of getting closer to a new girl?Thanks.
View related questions:
my ex Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (28 October 2007):
 I'm not exaggerating. I said nothing about sex, your answer should be you want to spend time with her because she's a nice person. You questions sounded like for some reason you have to give you an alternative reason to spend time with you. If she likes you, she'll spend time with you for just being you, not because she feels she's helping you to ease your pain. if you like her, be honest with her and your intentions. Dishonesty is dishonesty no matter how small or large it may be.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you are making it sound a little worse than it is, if I'm honest.
No I'm not just trying to have sex with her and therefore my dick is not the 'most important thing in the world'. I just enjoy her company, and this does give us common ground to talk about, and it means I can help her with her feelings for her ex. I do have some feelings for my ex of 2 years, I'm just slightly exaggerating them I guess.. which is not necessarily (in my opinion) much of a lie.
However, I will try and tone it down a little.
...............................
A
male
reader, rcn + ♥, writes (28 October 2007):
Anytime you say "should I use, to get closer" bad deal. That means you are using her for a self beneficial way in a non truthful manner. Relationships are built on being honest, don't start one off by not.
...............................
A
male
reader, dapone 1 +, writes (28 October 2007):
 hi Anon.
i think you are playing a very dangerous game, telling her you have just finished with ex,if she find out the truth then she will end your relationship very quickly,then she will tell her mates what a fraud you are, then no one will go out with you.
woman really do not like to be made fools of, then you are breaking her trust, which once broken can never be repaired.
As for your ex because you said you were over her ages ago, i really do not think you care about her.
hope this helps.
...............................
|
