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Is it better to masturbate or to get a girl?

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Question - (27 December 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 28 December 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, *nknown boy age 15 writes:

Hi ladies an Gents

If you could help me with this, it'd be helpful. I'm 15, 16 in February, I keep thinking of sex a lot more nowadays, I masturbate a lot more too.

I just want to do it! I'm still a virgin but I've had a couple of chances, I wasn't quite sure then, and now I'm craving for it.

I don't know what is worse, keep wanking in my bathroom on my own whilst waiting for the "perfect girl", or go out a just do it with some other girl I hardly know?

please give me some advice x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008):

Dear Poster

Puberty is the time of life when a boy starts to become sexually mature. Your reproductive organs develop and your body matures, you will become more aware of its sensitivity and sensuality. Discovering, exploring, and understanding your sensitivity can help you to enjoy your sex life to the full: sexual enjoyment involves the whole body, not just the sex organs. For many a person, masturbation is there first sexual experience. It is harmless and a NATURAL way of ENJOYING SEXUALITY on your own. It relieves TENSION that results from sexual urges. IT helps you to explore your body, discovering which sensations excite you ; knowledge you can share with a partner at a later stage. Please do realize that sexual pleasure is not the simple mechanical exercise so often portrayed in the media. Good sexual relations take time and consideration.When you have reached the age of consent(this differs from country to country) you can have sexual intercourse legally. This does not mean it is compulsory and it is often too early for most people. While a lot of young people might physically be old enough to have sexual intercourse; often they are not emotionally mature enough to handle the commitments and responsibilities involved in a lasting sexual relationship. There are NO PRIZES for starting early; often pressure and influence from friends can play a large part in the decision making; but always remember, it is your CHOICE;

If you are determined to have sex; make sure it is planned and protected.

I suggest you enjoy your fantasies and masturbation until you are physically and emotionally ready for more. Don't rush; get to know more about the dynamics of relationships and of sexual activities before you venture into it.

Use this time to read and to obtain information to prepare yourself with knowledge; you will never regret waiting a little longer.

I do hope you will take my words to heart and will reconsider your decision.

Best wishes and lots of SMILES to you.

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A male reader, 14all United States +, writes (28 December 2008):

It's not either or. Date girls and keep masturbating. The one doesn't stop the other. :)

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A female reader, JoKnows United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2008):

You are still underage, and sleeping with anyone would be against the law. There is no need to rush into having sex, and, regardless of what you think, most people your age are not sexually active. If you slept with someone you didn't like you would regret it, and you may get a reputation that could stop you from having a chance with your 'perfect girl'.

Continue masterbating; it is perfectly normal and helps you learn about your sexual likes and dislikes. You could also learn about how to please girls sexually. But, more importantly, you could learn about how to approach and date girls. The best sex is when you are in a relationship and respect each other. Most girls will not want to sleep with someone straight away either and you need to take it at her pace. Wait for your 'perfect girl' and in the meantime learn about women. It'll be worth it.

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A female reader, SAD WOMAN United States +, writes (28 December 2008):

The way you express yourself and as per your subject line, you seem to see a girl as a piece of meat. I suggest that you do not get a girl just to satisfy your desires and release your sperm. Please, make your first time a special time for your and your companion, so you won't regret later. Meanwhile, keep masturbating yourself.

Good Luck!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 December 2008):

Honeypie agony auntWait. You may not find the "perfect girl", but someone you genuinely have feelings for and who returns those feeling. She might not be The One you will be with for the rest of your life, but it will feel that way :)

Wank all you want.

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A female reader, bullriderswife United States +, writes (28 December 2008):

YES please wait bc when you do find that special girl she will respect you ALOT MORE for it i promise!

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