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Is it bad to have a fantasy like this?

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Question - (29 July 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2010)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So ive had a fantasy of hooking up with a random guy, not for sex, but for oral and stuff, and like, meeting him in a club or somewhere and doing stuff like that somewhere risque. Is it bad to have a fantasy like this? Is it unhealthy or healthy to want things like this?

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A male reader, IHateWomanBeaters United States +, writes (31 July 2010):

IHateWomanBeaters agony auntOk gabrielle and model 101 are the only intelligent people.

Your fantasy is NOT like molesting a kid.

That is STUPID STUPID STUPID.

You want to get oral from a guy in a club. BIG DEAL.

Be safe, make sure he understands limits. Don't get too wasted or wasted at all if you can help it. Make DAMN SURE he is sober and you can trust him.

There are tons of guys that are assholes that will take advantage and push you to do more.

Then there are tons of guys like me, that enjoy giving a woman pleasure and seeing them squirm, etc. that wouldn't dream of going beyond what you want to do.

If it is a hard limit, make it clear, so that they don't try to get you to have sex when you DO NOT want it.

IF you like the guy and if you feel comfortable do it how you want to do it.

As the intelligent people said. Be safe. Enjoy yourself. Have fun!

-Ihatewomanbeaters

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntNothing wrong with the fantasy. If you feel like acting it out, however, do be safe.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010):

Well as long as it stays a fantasy.

That's what TV can do to you lol

NightFairy

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010):

Please dont' act on that fantasy...not all fantasies are "ok." If someone has a fantasy to molest a child is that ok? HELL NO, so not all thoughts are good and you should repell them with other positive thoughts.

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A male reader, model101_t800 United States +, writes (29 July 2010):

model101_t800 agony auntPersonally I think there are no issues with your fantasy and you can act them out safely. Life is meant to be an experience. Just be safe.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 July 2010):

Honeypie agony auntI think having an active imagination is a great thing. I think if you start to feel/think/believe that you have to ACT them out, you have a problem.

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