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writes:Is it a good thing to go for a man who isnt the type you usually go for?Im asking this because i have met a man who is everything i want emotionally and mentally..basically the personality i have craved from a man for many years but he isnt the type of bloke i go for looks wise. He is far from ugly but he just isnt the type of bloke i usually go for where looks are concerned. Basically i have been out with lads who are relatively good looking but turn out to be completely shallow, arrogant, self centred and jusst plain arseholes if you want me to be honest. I have many mates who have told me that when you have been out the blokes you usually go for and end up getting hurt all the time, then change your criteria and you will be surprised by what a good decision you made...is that true?Personally looks do mean a lot to me but not half as much as personality and this man has it all, he is good looking just not the looks i personally go for. Is it a good thing to change what you look for in a man? Reply to this Question |
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reader, jj.  +, writes (19 May 2009):
Get to know him ..and don't go for the quick fix..we all have done the quick fix and it didn't usually work, get to know him from the inside out and then make your decision..Enjoy life then your going to enjoy it more..let go and let God..it always works..signed jj.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (30 April 2009):
 We cant help who we fall in love with and if they happen to be good looking as well as a great catch then brilliant, but i dont think it matters too much about looks some put it in there list of priorities but i think that you narrow your choices then, it is far better to be with a man who has personality, is respectful, faithful, honest, reliable all the qualities that dont require good looks but good upbringing!
I would say stick with what you have cause sometimes the better looking ones are worth the watching.
Gina
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): looks are important but it's not everything. I've been with many pretty faces who have been immature, unfaithful, liars etc etc. I think personality should be put first and looks 2nd. dont be shallow, give the guy a chance..
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (30 April 2009):
Of course it's a good thing to go for somebody who is not your usual type. Who's to say that your usual type is actually the right type for you anyway!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (30 April 2009):
 No two men are the same so I don't believe in women having a 'type'. Its good to experience a wide range of men, its beneficial in a lot of ways!! If you like this man then stay with him! Don't dump him because he's not your 'type' x
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reader, Uncle Phil + ♥, writes (30 April 2009):
 Not everyone can be a George Clooney lookalike and it's good that you think personality is more important than looks. Beauty is only skin deep, right? You'd better hope that your personality is of the type that he normally goes for!
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (30 April 2009):
Change is good, so they say. You got it in one when you said 'looks are important but this does not mean half as much as personality' you answered your own question there. Everyone seems to have a type but you have to start somehwere your not set to a certain way your whole life and the more different your guy is the better, you get more idea as to whats lacking and whats forfilling all your needs, who ticks all the boxes and what youd like to change etc, you need variety in order to compare and find what it is you really want from a man and relationship.If he is what you want then work from there, the bond you make with somebody regardless of the way they look etc can sometimes be a once in a life time thing that is very rare and with that in mind grab it with both hands! The more you change what sort of blokes your loking for the more you find out about yourself which is an achievement in itself so yes in a sense it is true that you will surprise yourself but not necessarily the positive way, its a balance! Its always good to change what you look for as long as your not changing the man or find yourself changing for the man! best of luck with your new man!
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