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writes:my marriage is over, I love my hb in many ways...he wants to be my friend after divorced, he said we can be good friends after all this sad situation. It's a good idea be friend of your ex hb? We didn't have a bad end, just things doesn't work as we wanted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everybody...and we don't have kids....we are separate already for a month...and he will be out for two more months...it's what he said. he is overseas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): Not straight away, give it a bit a time of apart for a while until you can gather your thoughts. It's not a bad idea to be friends with him as long as all your feelings are in check and you are able to move on with him still in your life.
I would limit contact for a while until you feel ready. If you already feel ready then go ahead.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (17 January 2011):
It is difficult to answer this question for you because there are many factors which influence the kind of relationship that will work between people. In general my belief is that if a relationship wasn't working as a marriage or romantic partnership, it can still work very well as a friendship. It depends on how good the relationship is, how much love there is between the two people involved, and how much both people want to. It is usually important to have a reasonable amount of time apart after separating, and usually the time apart will give you the answer of whether it is still important for you to be close to your husband after separating, and whether your desire to be close to him is a desire for friendship. Take your time and spend the time looking after yourself and building your life back up, once you have done this you will know better how to answer that question. In general though, if you can manage to let your love continue to shine through friendship without it being difficult for you, that is the best outcome. A successful friendship that can rise out of the ashes of a dwindeling marriage is a great achievement, where it is possible and appropriate to do so.
Good luck.
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reader, EPocket  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 when it comes abt good will .. its sure good :)
no one but this man would understand u or feel u "till now lets say"
as long as its not harmful its great as u already judge it . but a question came in mind as am writing this .. "KIDS" if there is any and how this would effect them . for me its important :)
good luck hun
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (17 January 2011):
 I don't see why not. Unless if you or him start dating someone and you ex starts problems. Are there kids involved? But as long as you keep a safe distance I don't see why it would be bad as long as you both have a good understanding with eachother.
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