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Is it a good idea for a 21 year old girl to lose her virginity with an older guy?

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Question - (18 May 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2008)
A female Canada age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hey,

Do you guys think it is a good idea for a 21 year old girl to loose her virginity with a much experience men who's 35 years old or do you guys think that's too old or that we've got too much of a difference in experience ?

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A female reader, askhayley222 United Kingdom +, writes (26 May 2008):

askhayley222 agony auntif you feel comfortable with him then go ahead, and enjoy :)

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A male reader, ricbax United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2008):

Well your first time should perhaps be someone you feel comfortable with and who is understanding about your lack of experience. Someone with whom you can talk openly about sexual stuff and not get embarrassed. Doesn't matter whether he's 25, 35 or 65.

My ex told me that she lost her virginity, at age 17, to a 34 year old man and it was a wonderful experience for her. I lost mine to her a year later (I was 27, she was 18) and it was amazing. I don't think age matters.

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A female reader, Fiona xxx United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2008):

Fiona xxx agony auntI am open-minded about age gaps, and have always been with somebody older so to speak. For example 6-11 years age gap. I would draw the line at 15 years plus, and certainly shunned a guy who was my Dad's age who chatted me up, yuck!

It can be nice to have a guy who knows what he is doing. I wouldn't have wanted too much fumbling around and being nervous on both sides. It is bad enough when one of you is nervous and a virgin, but I couldn't imagine how you would get it on if you were both virgins. Perhaps it is too idealistic to expect you are both virgins, you love eachother so deeply, and he will be the one to marry. I don't know many girls who have only slept with one guy.

As long as you have dated a month or two first, you won't feel like it is all about the sex.

As far as "too much of a difference in experience"...

Did you ask how many girls he slept with? If he said just one, perhaps that isn't true though LOL.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntI agree with anonymous, if you think this older guy is worth it then go ahead. But don't lose your virginity until you are for sure that he is the right guy and that he isn't using you. I would build up a stable relationship if I was you, you have all the time to lose your virginity.

Also make sure you use contraception, plenty of lube as the first time can be quite uncomfortable as your vagina needs to get used to having a penis inside you.

Good Luck Hun xx.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008):

in my opion it doesnt matter if he is 35 as long as you love him it is not smat to lose your virginety to an older man whos just wants to have a one night stand and take some one virginety.

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