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writes:Hi everyone. Ive got this problem thats get on the way of my life when i think of it. Ive lost my boyfriend 2 years ago from suicide so since then i haven't had anyone in my life. Im so in need of love as im scared i might end up alone or without kids. I was expecting to get married and have kids but im so scared because im 35 years old without kids and if i cant find someone soon i might end up childless and most importantly i so wish to do things the right way like meeting the right one and getting married and having kids because im scared as people are saying after 35 years i might not deliver a healthy baby. Is it true? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jsl  +, writes (23 May 2015):
I had my youngest son at 35. He was the biggest one out of 6 children. There are a few risks as you age, but those can be thought about after you meet someone. There are genetic Drs you can make appointments with if you are worried. I believe the actual risk comes in with older men. As far as the health of their sperm as far as downs. My mother- in- law had her youngest at 44. She is a beautiful healthy young woman now. Very smart, works at a very large law firm. So, it is really more about genetics, I think. I do have a special needs child, but she has a resesive dominate trait, and I was 30 when I had her. Her issues had nothing to do with my age. Hope this helps.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 May 2015):
 The older you get (after 35) the bigger the risk the pregnancy is. For you AND the baby, but it's still a LOT lower risk at 35 than 40+
I had my youngest at 35, she was smaller then my first two (about a pound) and was born earlier (about 2 weeks) but she came out perfectly fine and is emotionally and intellectually very smart, doing advanced academic in most of her subjects.
At 20 weeks, I DID have an amniocentesis (amniotic fluid test) which is a medical procedure used in prenatal diagnosis of chromosomal abnormalities and fetal infections. Though we had already discussed what we would do if there HAD been any abnormalities and that was to keep the baby regardless.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (22 May 2015):
 Have a look at this article:
http://health.howstuffworks.com/pregnancy-and-parenting/pregnancy/complications/a-guide-to-pregnancy-complications-ga1.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2015): Well my mother just had my little sister and she is 42!
My wee sister is perfect and doing well.
As of meeting someone my Mum spend 11 years as a single mum raising me, she then met my step-dad at 32. Who has been an amazing husband to her and a great Dad to me.
I hope this story gives you hope and makes you realise not to give up because if my mum did I wouldn't have my baby sister.
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