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writes:so i been with this guy joe, im very happy. he's in bootcamp right now for the army, and were getting pretty serious. Im 16 years old, young yes, but very mature. Im turning 17 in december anywho. I really wanted to know if its possible to get married after he is done basic training so i can live on base housing with him when he get deployed for the first time and the rest of him time in the army. I really would like to know how long it will take and/or if its possible to get married after basic training. ( i dont want answers saying, too young or anything such like that, because im actually very happy and he wants a future with as i want a future with him)thank you, hopefully you guys can help! Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (14 July 2010):
Give your B/F a special thanks for his service.
Well, yeah, you ARE rather young to be doing this but I'll respect your self-evaluation and take up that question in another thread.
The military services will honor any legally valid marriage from any of the U.S. states or territories, regardless of the laws in effect where your B/F may be stationed. Be ready to show a certified or notarized copy of your marriage license. There may be a separate set of rules about ages, waiting periods, medical exams, etc for marriages performed by military authorities on military bases.
Your B/F's duty assignment after Basic Training may restrict whether the service officially recognizes and supports your being together or not. Short-term assignments, whether for additional training or other purposes, are often designated as "unaccompanied" - meaning that, officially, spouses and kids aren't supposed to be there with the service member. Your access to the various support services (housing, medical care, recreation facilities, PX/Bx, etc), and perhaps the installation itself, may be restricted.
If your B/F has an "accompanied" assignment you will have access to the available support services subject to the usual rank-based pecking order. Availability of on-base housing varies widely. Often, there is a waiting-list and he needs to get on the list ASAP after he has orders for his assignment!
Did your B/F work with a particular recruiter before enlisting? If so contact that person - try to find out when their slack time is during the week, so you drop by to ask questions. That person is probably more familiar with the current rules and limitations than your B/F is. If your B/F knows, at least tentatively, what his next assignment is, the recruiter may be willing to make a few phone calls and get you accurate, current information.
Do NOT try to initiate contact with officers or other authorities at your B/F's Basic Training post. Until you are married to him, you have no official standing with the service. You will be treated courteously but told little or nothing. At the same time, he will be told "If the Army wanted you to have a girlfriend (or a wife) they would have issued you one.". This is part of the Basic Training environment - in general, the services are actually quite supportive of soldiers' families.
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 July 2010):
 You can get married after basic training, though you may have to elope on very short notice if he is getting deployed.
You can request housing on the base, as well. I don't believe the request is always granted, though.
Good luck with your marriage. Army wives can have a tough time of it, but your future husband will appreciate you more than you can possibly know.
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