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Is is ever ok to cheat?

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Question - (9 September 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 9 September 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Ok, so I know it is wrong, but I am asking anyway....Is it ever ok to cheat. I am in a relationship, and have been for the past 6 years. The man I am cheating with is also in a relationship, for the past 3 years. We are together because it is fun, and we are both getting something out of our time together, that we are not getting in our current relationships. We only see each other occasionally, usually for really hot sex. is it ever ok?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009):

No, sneaking around behind another persons back is the best way to prove you have no respect fore them. No respect = no love......

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009):

It's only OK to cheat when you do it together... then it's not cheating! So, no, it's NEVER ok...

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A female reader, coffeebean86 Australia +, writes (9 September 2009):

coffeebean86 agony auntby your post it seems you feel its alright about cheating - because your not the one getting hurt - But if you were to think about your bf of 6 years cheating on you with another girl for really hot sex - how would you feel?

why don't you try use the time you spend with this new guy to try to resolve things with bf instead. if you've been going out for 6years you guys must be close enough to talk and resolve almost about anything.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (9 September 2009):

Danielepew agony auntNo.

We are weak beings, and anyone can let him or herself get carried away. But, though it can sometimes be understood as human weakness, it is never right.

You give little information on your post. From what I see, you two are cheating because it is "fun". You two are hurting two other people very deeply, and, if you were caught, you and those other people would lose a lot. I don't think this is fun. You're hurting people and playing with fire.

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A female reader, linz09 United Kingdom +, writes (9 September 2009):

linz09 agony auntPersonally I don't think it is, because your deceiving and lying to two other people. You both choose to be with your current partners so if your no getting what you want out of your relationships I feel its fairer to finish those first.

It might be fun,daring and sexy but it could also potentially really hurt two other innocent people.

You don't really seem like your bothered either way about hurting peoples feelings in this sexual liasson.

Cheating might be exciting, but it's not really emotionally fulfilling,its a selfish act and the people who take part would be better off single rather than sneaking around and lying to their partners and themselves

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