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writes:Hello, all. Ok so....I basically, well, I'm a dork aha. Really I am, because apparantly I'm the type of girl that writes letters to the boy she likes.I even did the little check box thing....yes. But here's the thing, I had already told the boy before that I had a crush on him(when we were alone of course) but then my friends were like, he probably thinks you are joking, and I understand that because a lot of the girls tease him and stuff. Not in a mean way, in a teasing, flirty way. They touch his hair -.-.....blow kisses at him...... Get in his personal space and call his name.......yeah( I no like, but I keep quiet). He's very um, reserved so he doesn't respond(or he may laugh a little).He does talk to me though when I talk to him :) So I wrote this note to let him know that I wasn't teasing him. Now, this note wasn't me confessing my love or whatever, I basically was just likeI just wanted to let you know that I wasn't joking about yesterday, I think you're cool bla bla and I was just wondering if I had a chance and if not I understandThen :/ yea I went on with the crummy check box thing(but not before letting him know that I knew how corny I was being in the letter) XDThat was pretty much it and I asked him to give it to me tomorrow. He didn't though, but before class started(when we were in the hallway alone) he kept looking my way, like staring at me, but he never gave me the letter back. I didn't ask for it either...I kind of left him alone because I didn't want to smother him, I wanted to give him space you know? Time to clear his head and think because even though it was such a small simple letter I mean.....who does that you know? XD ahhh I'm such a dork.I was basically waiting for him to come, but it didn't happen he just kept looking at me and I smiled a little at him a little but that was it. At the end of the day we were walking side by side, and I said nothing. Should I have just asked for the note or did I do the right thing by waiting for him to do something? Should I ask him about it tomorrow? Or does all this mean that he isn't interested and I should move on? I kind of consider the fact that maybe he isn't and is afraid to tell me no, but then like the first time I told him face to face he looked happy and I asked him if I could get to know him and he said sure and we had a nice little conversation. I even made the boy laugh. Maybe he's too nervous to say yes, then? Or perhaps he hasn't even decided. Which has the greater possibility
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (20 September 2012):
 I don't think you are a dork, I did the same letter to a boy I had a crush on in high school, with believe it or not the same outcome. I never got a real answer from him. I think you have done enough. You told him twice now you are interested so it's his turn if he's interested in you as well. It could be he's too awkward to say something or more likely in my opinion that he doesn't know how to say no, he's not into you. Either way, you have done your part. If he's really too awkward to pursue anything then there's not much you can do with that either. You can't have a relationship with yourself while he just sits there shyly every time you try to hold hands or do anything. Give him time to say something about it, if he doesn't then assume he isn't interested and move on. But I think sending the cute notes like that is always a good idea and fond memory... We put ourselves out there and it shows a level of confidence. Good job and don't think you are a dork in a bad way, it's a good thing.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 September 2012):
 Let him be. Let him decide-make up his mind- tahe his time or whatever . Don't come on on him with the grace of a ton of bricks.
You did your part already. You told him in person that you like him, and that you want to hang out. You confirmed it by letter . Plus, you did the check box thing ( I admit honestly that I don't know what that could be :) , anyway it must be something that reinforces the " I like you " message ) . Good but now, enough please !
The ball is in his court, it's his turn to actuallly say or do something, if he is interested. I know that at his age he may be shy , goofy and inexperienced, but really , you have helped him more than enough, if he likes you he must figure out on his own a way to respond, without any further " hints ".
Give him , say, one week or ten days to follow up - if he does not ask you out in this time, just assume that he is not interested ( and alas too coward to come up with a honest Forget about it , as often it is the case also with
much older guys than him ).
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): This is a cute post, put a smile on my face...
I was practically still scared of girls at his age and I was quite shy, only way I ever got a relationship at that age was because she made the first move. If you have made the first move and he hasn't done anything yet only thing you can really do is talk to him and make it comfortable between you two. By talking I don't mean by asking him about the letter, just make small talk, for example if ya see him reading something ask him about it.
It's hard to tell if he is interested or not, people act differently in these situations. Until he gets the courage to tell you what's up you won't know.
Next time you walk beside him in the hallway please for the love of god say something!! After that letter that must have been uncomfortably awkward, I probably would've broke a sweat. It's not a big deal but next time say something, or it will turn awkward, so ya for now my biggest advice is just talk and make it more at ease.
Lastly though you should ask him about it, maybe not tomorrow cause it may be pushy for him, but say like three days after...I don't know but don't wait to long. Like I said above he may not have the courage, you may have to bring it up or you may never get an answer till the crush fades.
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