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16-17,
anonymous
writes:16/f. i have self esteem issues..or had..they're pretty much gone now, ever since i got my first boyfriend. and now, i feel like i'm gonna lose him for some strange reason. here are some reasons why:-whenever he compliments me, i take them very humbly, with my head down..and it looks as if i think he's lying. -i see him flirting with younger girls at our school...whenever im not around...and whenever i AM around but dont pay attention to him, he does the same. to make me jealous or something -he keeps on telling me he doesnt like the way i act..and questions me and thinks im lying and is, in general, very paranoid-he mentioned taking a break once. in other words "since we dont do sexual things because youre not letting me, theres this other girl who CAN do sexual things and wouldnt it be better if i were with her for now?" but then...he called himself "selfish" and forgot about the whole idea-and just in general..the smallest things i say..piss him off or get him all frustrated. i can't talk to him either. when he talks to these other girls..not only does my confidence go down..but so does my mood. and i dont know what to do. i feel like i'm not good enough. is it me or is it him? he's my age, by the way.
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reader, deadokie21 +, writes (20 May 2008):
alright i stopper reading at the part where he said (since we dont do sexual things because youre not letting me, theres this other girl who CAN do sexual things and wouldnt it be better if i were with her for now?" ) Your young, and dont have to get into SEX right now... A sexual relationship at your age wouldnt be nessecary... my g/f and i just had sex and we are 20.. Honestly dont buy into guyz thats all im going to say unless u meet the one guy you can trust completely. And your so called b/f. Needs to learn how to treat a girl for one. Respect is something u need in a relationship and he cant seem to get ahold of himself cause hes to young and doesnt know the meaning of a relationship.. my answer well not answer ill just say it ... break up with him . It will make u alot happier in the long run and self essteam issues.. Your 16 :) cheer up and make the days that ur around ur friends ones u will cherish. Bad days good days just do it.
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reader, macmichael  +, writes (10 May 2008):
Sorry its in your and every girls nature to be attracted to nasty people ! fact ! IF you can break that attraction then it would be really good for you (and some other poor soul who otherwise hasnt got a chance of dating). Sadly i think these men will always have a LOT of women admirers all their life !
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reader, MRS BEAR +, writes (3 May 2008):
 I would give him a wide berth, he isn't making you happy - I am sure he would be ecstatic if you had sex with him - but don't!
he sounds very immature and i don't think he has a clue how to treat a girl, saying that tho he is only young and is probably under pressure too from his mates to look cool and even have sex.
Don't have sex with him - wait until you are in a steady relationship with someone who treats you well.
Learn to accept his compliments, try to chill out and just enjoy yourself, have fun with your freinds. I think he would see a whole new you and he may realise that if he doesn't start treating you better and respecting you - all the time - other girls around or not - that he could lose a really good catch!
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (2 May 2008):
Putting your head down when you get a compliment is just being modest - not an accusation that he's lying. What do you think you are supposed to do, grin and say "yeah I am amazing!" that would come across as arrogant.
The fact he's flirting with other girls is something to worry about. As is the fact that he gets so annoyed with you for no reason.
If you can't talk to someone then what is the point of being with them? Surely you should be able to talk to him more than anyone else in the world?
I would seriously ask yourself if he is the best thing for you right now. Being single and getting your confidence up could be better.
Good Luck!! xx
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