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female
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26-29,
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writes:I've been trying online dating in the past month for the first time. I'm only 19 and have zero experience with anything! The whole never-had-a-boyfriend-cause-no-one-is-decent-enough story... Anyway, a 25 yr old guy from the UK starts chatting with me. I wasn't too interested but thought I'd be polite and reply. I found his location and interest strange but he wasn't too bad. A few more introductory messages and he wants to know if I'm interested in white, British men... (I'm black). He keeps complimenting me, how pretty and cute I am etc. And keeps saying how much he wishes I were there with him. When I had to end our conversation, he asked for a kiss. I don't know, but I'm getting creepy vibes from him. It was our first conversation and he was already so forward. Why? I don't even live near him! And I'm 19, although mature... But still, not many guys his age would want a serious relationship with a 19 yr old, right? Maybe I'm seriously new and inexperienced at flirting, or just strange, but I always personally thought a good potential date would at least try establishing a friendship first before suggesting anything too romantic, let alone almost sexual... Does he want a sex-email buddy to curb his possible black girl fetish? Is he too suggestive too early or am I simply a prude?
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (17 June 2014):
Thats quite forward. I ll like to get to know a girl first.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (17 June 2014):
 You may be inexperienced, but you GUT was telling you something was off... SO LEARN this, listen to your gut. If it tell you that you get weird vibes... trust it and cut the communication with him.
a DECENT guy (and girl) should WANT to establish the whole get to know you first and NOT in the "biblical" sense. My guess is if you keep talking to him more inappropriate stuff will show up.
My suggestion to you, is to NOT start out dating someone who lives half a world away, find someone local.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2014): I think he was being to forward and creepy i would stop talking to him. Make sure if you ever do meet up with someone you met online make sure you have friends or family there with you and that your in a public place you never know what the person intentions are or if they are who they say they are. Good luck.
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