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Is he thinking of proposing?

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Question - (4 December 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, *ovebs writes:

I have been dating this guy for technically a year now. We have been really close friends, best friends, for over 6 years and have been in college during this time. He is getting ready to graduate this fall and I graduate next spring. I have dated a few other guys while in college and he has dated a few other girls as well and we really hit it off this past summer. We have both been in love with each other for almost two years but we were both in relationships when the feelings started to emerge. We had to seperate ourselves from one another during that time and rekindled about a few months later. We have always been there for one another. His family love me and I am the first girlfriend he has ever invited to a family event, like thanksgiving or a vacation away for the weekend with his Mom and Step-dad. His mother really likes me and we talk often as well. He hasn't met my family yet, but keeps talking about how he wants to do very badly. Especially my Dad. He really wants to meet my dad. He even said something like, "Hypothetically, if I were to want to propose or something like that I might want to talk to him first." We have talked about marriage a little, but he talks about it more so than me. We talk about our hypothetical children and he talks about what he is going to do after school and that he doesn't want to leave me. He tells me he loves me at least 8 times a day and does little things that shows me he loves me. There is no doubt in my mind that we are right for each other and for the first time in my life I finally feel like I have found the right person. I am 24 and he is 22 and one of the sweetest guys I have ever known in my life. He and I laugh and smile so much when we are together and we rarely disagree. I feel like this is a match made in heaven.

My question is, Do you think he will purpose? My friend says she thinks he will do it around my graduation or even before that. He talks about saving money and settling down. He hints to me that he wants to meet my dad and he constantly talks about marriage and how amazing it would be to be married to me. I just want to prepare myself for it if he is. I know he is the right person. I can just feel it. Let me know what you think. Please.


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A female reader, lovebs United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

lovebs is verified as being by the original poster of the question

So, he kind of surprised me recently. I went out of town for a few weeks and one night we were on the phone. We started talking about what kind of dog we liked. And then he started saying, when we get married we should get a golden retriever cause its a dog we both really like. And I was in shock, he said the words, "WHEN we get married" vs. "If we get married." Then, he said, so when would a good time be to ask you to marry me? And I said, "uh........" I didn't know what to say. I said, "Well, I would really like to be through with school and kind of have a job and have an idea of where I want to go next." And he said, "Well, we wouldn't have to get married right away. But for a few weeks I thought about it and I was really close to buying you a ring for Christmas and asking you. But I thought you would like me to meet your parents first." And I said, "Yeah, that might be best." And he said, "Well ok. I would feel better if I got to know your dad and asked him first. It would be the respectable thing to do." And ever since he has said, "When we get married..." and "You wouldn't have to worry about a house if I am in the air force..." and "when we have kids, how many do you want, and you wouldn't have to raise them alone, I would be there." And... WOW, I am so stoked. So we are going to visit my parents for spring break. My next question would be, "Do you think he will propose after that?"

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (4 December 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntI hear wedding bells.

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