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*ueenofheart
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now. He is 32 years old. I know that he is a simple-sex type of guy. But, there are 2 things that keep buggin me. One is the blow job and another one is the same-position sex. But the last one doesn't bother me that much. He never asked me to give him blow job. One day he gave me hint of getting a blowjob in the morning. So, few days later, I woke him up with a blowjob in the morning. His reaction was like, "what r u doin?". But I continued giving him the bj until he stopped me with a reason that he wanted to take a leak. So, he didn't come and I only gave him the bj for 2 minutes! When he came back from the bathroom, he just told me that it was a great one but I found it really offensive for me.The next day, during the foreplay, I was about to give him a bj again but he took my hands off from his dick and just went straight away to sex.Is he really so simple about sex that he doesn't even want a blowjob? Is he one of the men out there who don't like blowjob? I love giving a blowjob. I think that it's an act of love and devotion. It's just that I do want to give my bf pleasures, especially if that person is worth it. Although, I feel very uneasy everytime a guy gives me oral. I want to communicate with him but I know sex is a sensitive thing to talk about. He might be offended to what I'm about to ask. So, guys, I need your opinion, suggestion, or point of view about this. Thank you.Queenofheart
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reader, queenofheart +, writes (27 October 2009):
queenofheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Gina.. Will try that.. :)
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 Just mention that you have noticed he doesn't seem to big on the oral sex and maybe it is nothing for you to worry about, but i wont know that till you tell me why i feel your avoiding this.
You could also ask is it because you feel uneasy receiving oral? maybe he feels he doesn't want you to do that on him because deep down he might be thinking the same as you?
You explain why you feel uneasy, and to reassure him it is not him, and that might just break the ice for him to do likewise, good luck.
Gina
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reader, queenofheart +, writes (27 October 2009):
queenofheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much all for the advice! Much appreciated.. :)
If I wanna talk with him bout this, what kind of questions that won't offend him?
@quiet-echo.. Not that I'm aware of...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): anon is right. He might have had bad experiences in the past and you may not be as good as you think you are, altogether leading to a turn off for him.
Different guys react to different things so the standard Cosmo advice might not apply to him. I'd suggest working in things slowly over a month with no specific goal in mind so there is no pressure. Whatever this 'one position' is, it probably lets him control the action and pace he needs, rather than leaving it up to chance.
But enough with the lewd shaft licking. That is just annoying and doent feel like anything.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (26 October 2009):
TALK to him... it doesn't sound as if you've communicated YOUR desire (to suck cock)... a BJ is not simply for the guy... the girl can enjoy it was well...
Tell him what you want- I'm sure that he'll let you have your fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Sorry, but he may not be into blow jobs. It has been my experience that most girls do not know how to give a good blow job. I had a g/f with a huge oral fixation. She loved to suck cock, which most guys would love, but she simply was no good at it. So I would avoid it, because she would spend a lot of time trying to get me to cum and it just wasn't stimulating enough.Girls focus on the shaft, ignore the head, forget about the balls and there's just no pleasure in it. The sensitivity lies in stimulating the rim around the head of the penis, known as the frenulum/frenar band, and glans. My current g/f has gotten really good at it, but it has taken her a year. A straight blow job just isn't very satisfying. You need to mix in some hand job and ball licking and sucking too. Massage the balls while you are sucking and rubbing. It makes a difference. Maybe if you show him that it could be pleasurable he will let you do it from time to time.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (26 October 2009):
 It sounds like he's self conscious about something. Either sex in general, or those two things in particular. Has he expressed any disatisfaction with his appearance outside the bedroom?
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (26 October 2009):
Ask him it really is that simple!
We have no idea why he is like this you need to discuss this with him, maybe he is one of those men who isn't interested in blow jobs i have no idea! most men do i agree there, but unless you ask him and get his reasons i feel you will be met with this sort of response from him.
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