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writes:Seeing someone I can't read. It's frustrating. He got jealous when he heard a guy was interested in me and kept bringing it up. Then all of sudden he started to mention a girl that he saw was hot. He acts like he doesn't like me other times then tries to kiss me the next minute. He will not text me for days then text ask why I didn't text him. He will pull me close to cuddle on the couch and the next minute pull away and get up to pretend to do something and will sit on another couch. I went away on vacation and he emailed me everyday asking if I was having fun, but when I got back in town I asked to hang out he said I'm busy so what do I do? We are at the getting to know you phase but he is making it hard, what is going on between us? I think he is scared to get close or is he not interested?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2014): Thanks to all responses. He heard and saw another guy liking me at an event we went to the guy called me beautiful and asked for my contact information. I politely said no and told him I came with someone. So since then its been more odd between us. That whole night he kept watching me when I was talking to others socially and then started saying on the way home "you seem to have better options" so yes insecure but I do like him and let him know I did. He still is so distant maybe he isnt the one. I thought we connected oh well :(
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 November 2014):
 Honeypie has him pegged.Sounds like 30 going on 12 to me.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 November 2014):
 He sounds really immature, to be honest.
Where did he HEAR that there was another guy interested in you? Did YOU bring it up? If so, why? To keep him on the edge of the seat? Or to try and get him to "choose" you?
I mean if he constantly bring up this other guy, and now some chick he think is hot - doesn't that just REEK of insecurity and "game playing" ?
And the whole pull/push thing? How is that working? He might be scared, he might not know what he is doing, what YOU are thinking/doing, where this is going as well, but mostly he sounds like he doesn't know WHAT he wants.
Texting is no way to build anything. Going out on dates and spending time together IN person is. Not on a couch, but I'd say out in public. Go to a museum, park, lunch, dinner, go bowling, gokarting, mini-golf... something.
How long have you "known" him?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 November 2014):
 He is scared of both rejection and getting close. He is interested otherwise he won't be contacting you every day. He is also acting cool so you won't think he is desperate. He could really be busy this time. In a guys' brain, he might even think having fun on a vacation means you were having a fling with some hot guy. You talked enough about your separate lives and now it's time to get to know each other more. You are still texting so focus on learning small details from each other. Talking about other people won't enlighten you on whether romantic interest is there.
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