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writes:Dear CupidI met a guy in dating site, we are dating each other for couple of weeks and we went exclusive. He is not handsome, but I kind of like the way he carries himself and talks. So I like him, he is younger than me and he never dated an older women and he feels it's refreshing to be with someone who is matured and also does not have any baggage and fun to be with. We connect well, haven't had sex yet but we fool around and this time we went down on me, and says that I taste good and I look so cute and my body is hot and sexy and all. The thing is the relationship I had earlier, no one has went down on me, and also they never told me I'm hot and sexy. Just wondering whether he is saying that so he could get laid or is he genuine, how do I find that out? I know I look good but never seen myself as hot or sexy and Ofcourse I won't know how I taste, so.Pls help me, thanks for reading Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2016): "Just wondering whether he is saying that so he could get laid or is he genuine, how do I find that out?"Don't put out for him and see how long he hangs around. You are exercising very questionable judgement by going so fast with a guy you barely know. Much more bad than good can come from hopping into bed with a virtual random stranger. All you know about him is what he wants you to believe and I would be very suspicious of his claim that he's never dated an older woman before.A guy who dates an older woman could be looking for a sugar mama to support him in the style to which he'd like to become accustomed, or he could have deep-seated mommy issues, or it could be that there's something about him that turns off women his age, or he could be using his youth to stroke the ego and fluff the vanity of a vulnerable older woman. Best way to determine if he's genuine is by getting to know him as a person before having sex, that is if he sticks around long enough to allow you the time to make such a determination.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (9 April 2016):
 Two weeks and you're already spreading your legs for him? What do you expect? And what do you think will he think of you?
Of course he's saying all those things to get laid! Its not rocket science! He knows you're already allowing oral sex...it wont be too long before he can get inside you. He'll say everything that he can. You're the prettiest, hottest, sexiest goddess that he's ever come across. Your body is a wonderland, you smell and taste awesome. Come on...you cant possibly be that naive!
Guys have terrible double standards when it comes to choosing a wife. They'll have fun with all the wrong ones but will want a chaste simple girl with high morals when it comes to their wife. And I dont know how you expect miracles with someone you met on a dating website and are so intimate with this early on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2016): yes he is after your p#ssy. a guy will tell you what you would like to hear to get what he wants.
"just wondering whether he is saying that so he could get laid or is he genuine, how do i find that out?"
the speed you are going it should not take long to find out. he is telling you everything you want to hear, to get what he wants.
don't expect to get a keeper if you are giving it out.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (9 April 2016):
 Of course he is saying it to get laid, even though you really may (or may not) taste good to him or even if he had any inklings for a long term relationship. The problem with men is that you cannot ever tell what their life goals are when the urge for sex is front and center. One way to tell is through time: delay sex, including oral, for as long as possible and see his reaction. If he can't postpone his sexual gratification in exchange for a good relationship, then he maybe short term shooter, interested in a crotch only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2016): He sounds like someone who's really out to have fun and you sound like someone who's expecting more than that. If you want to have a serious relationship, I don't think being intimate at this point is what you want to be doing with him. All guys want to get laid, but only the ones who are serious enough would be willing to wait. So if you ask him to hold out for you until you're ready and he disappears on you, you will have your answer.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (9 April 2016):
 Maybe,maybe not you cant really tell, all you can do is go with the flow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2016): Well it sure doesn’t take long these days to get a tongue lashing and call each other exclusive after 2 weeks.
Of course he’s saying it to get laid, genuine or otherwise! Was this dating website called; Celibate R Us?
Sounds like you’re more naive and insecure than mature – “how do I find out?” Besides what does it matter, at the speed you’re going you’d have been laid within the next 2 weeks, engaged after 5 and married at 6?
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