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Is he moving too fast again or am I just paranoid?

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Question - (25 October 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 25 October 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Im 18 and my BF is just older than me. He has had relationships before but I am still a virgin. I went out with him a few years ago, but broke up with him because I am highly insecure (depressive, not open with people touching me) and he was moving way to fast, but I didn't really explain why we broke up. I think he mentioned to his closest friends that I was 'fridged' and he was upset over the break up. We had only been going out a for a few months then.

Recently we got back together at a party. I was very drunk and he was told to back off by several people as this would be taking advantage of me. We went back to his and I told him to slow down, however we ended up doing foreplay - he obviously knew what he was doing but I was still fairly drunk and had never done his before. I did stop him having sex with me. How do I tell him to slow down? He's fine normally, I just need to tell him to slow down without being ignored. I cant break up with him again. He also touches me in public and doesn't take the hint to stop. Am I still just paranoid? Is that too fast?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (25 October 2009):

Not only is he not respecting you or listening to you or even slowing down, but he still tries to take advantage of you. For your own safety and wellbeing, I think you need to split from him. To have called you friged was very cruel as well, and I think you can do better. If you do feel low, perhaps you'd be better off talking to someone about it so you can understand why you feel this way and face it. You can do so much better than a guy who is just trying to use you and isn't respecting you.

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