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writes:Ive being with my bf for 5 months. This is a taking it slowly relationship. I have posted this question before but over the last few days things have got stranger.The thing is I just dont get what he is doing on a 'social network site'. This is how I met this guy, he added me then we got talking, it was mostly inboxing though. He adds random girls every night, mostly 'skanky and tarty' and he doesnt know any of them. He has added over 100 since this year, but lately he had been deleting some of them. The other night he deleted 33 last night was 22 but he still adding new ones. It looks like he never uses this site as there is nothing on his wall and never posts anything and soon as he adds these girls he deletes from his wall. A girl I know told me had being chatting to her as in 'flirty chat' and when I asked him he said it was ages ago and he deleted her. I am concerened about this, I know he doesnt meet any of them for a fact. But i have become very suspicious about him. Do you think he is looking for someone else? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): To cindycares, thanks for the answer. It does seem like a hobby, and like you say a silly one at that as he is a teacher and these girls are all young like 16-19 year olds. But I am still wondering if he is talking on chat to them? He tells me he loves me and things are ok between us, even though I dont see him that much. just a couple of nights a week but we have had a good weekend together and he texts me everyday.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Well, IMO not exactly looking as in actively, willfully seeking a specific kind of person, but he's lazily casting his nets and if ever something interesting should get caught into them, he'd probably would not throw it back .
You see, the problem is that " the way you get them is the way you lose them ".
Social networks are a quick, easy way to get exposure to a lot of people, you can get in touch in a month with more people than you'd normally get to meet in 5 years of real life. You may also meet someone you click with, as it happened to you guys, but if it's not total love and overwhelming passion, in the back of his mind there 's always the idea of " there's more where this one come from ".
Let's say that maybe for now it's just a hobby, and a silly one too- but ,in lack of very strong feelings, yes, there is potential for damage.
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