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female
age
36-40,
*mandalucy
writes:I'm a mess over this. I have been dating this guy for 9 months and although we never made it exclusive it was obvious that we wanted and liked each other. He is a very proud and kind of jealous person. Things were going well and I was looking forward to spending the holidays with him. One week before Xmas he texted me out of the blue that it would be best if we're just friends. Out of pride I just agreed, wished him well and didn't contact him after. He has a history of breaking hearts but I know him and I had something special as naive as it sounds. I was heartbroken. Then exactly a week later he texted me to first say "what's up" in the way we used to say hi to each other, by saying "soup" (this little silly greeting we used to do) I didn't respond and then received another text saying how he found out that I have had sex with so many people he knew. I was furious and bombarded him with texts saying hoe lame it was of him to say that and counted the people he had sex with before me. I told him people were making up stuff and that he should know me better than thinking of me as a slut. I had sex with one person we both know a long time ago. And whyndoes it matter now? It's the past and I want nobody but him. Of course I didn't get a response. Now that he had broken silencebfirst I felt the need to write him more and just let him now how ridiculous it is for him to just abandon me because of something he heard without even asking me first. I texted him some more and after no response again I just sent him a goodbye text, wishing him well again and letting him knowbthat I'll leave him alone forever. This all sounds like a childish game. I'm 23 and he is a 25 year old PhD student, therefore he does not lack intellect and should know better. He was probably embarrassed in a situation where I came up and his ego was hurt. I also know that he had great satisfaction knowing that this is driving me crazy.I need to know if he will come around and contact me if I leave him be. I know he misses me since he was the one who initiated contact everyday when we were still talking. Or can he just get over me like that? I don't want to be with anyone else although he has major communication issues. Sometimes you just know when you want somebody and the fact that I can't have him now is tearing me apart. I want to know if he is just punishing me (he has in the past) or if he is over me. He hasn't erased me off facebook or anything. I just want him back in my life and need him to get over his pride. But how? I'm so sick over this.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 hi
9 months with someone is long enough i think to give it more respect than to end things like this by text about hearsay that isn't even true. he is being childish, your right, but if you still want to be with his you need to TALK to him (not text please!) and try to sort things out. if he doesn't want to listen, at least you will know you tried
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