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writes:Hello,I've been wondering lately if my boyfriend is getting bored with me or is just out of the honey moon phase.He used to always say loving adorable things to me and hardly ever talk about sexual things, but now, hes always using sexual innuendo and only says love you when he has to leave or something, never just because(i always tell him how i love him and whatnot, i feel you should say it as often as possible). I don't think i like the sexual innuendo, because its like constant, if i say something, he'll turn it into something sexual, even if I'm being serious. We haven't had sex, I'm still a virgin, and its been years since hes slept with someone. He doesn't seem interested in anything i say anymore, he always changes the subject after a few "uh huh"'s and whatnot, But hes always saying i should talk more, and says conversations change a lot. He confuses me a lot. (by the way, this is an online relationship, and when we talked on the phone, he would be less distracted and such)But anyways, could he be bored of me or is he just out of the lovey dovey honeymoon phase and just comfortable with how our relationship is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Hang on a minute, does that mean you have never met him in person? How is it a relationship in that case?
It sounds like he may be trying to pressurise you into sex. If you are not ready for sex then make it very clear and don't let him push you. Why would you want to have sex with someone who isn't interested in you as a person anyway.
There are plenty more fish in the sea.
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reader, WizardOfWaz  + ♥, writes (18 April 2008):
 Doesn't sound as if he is all that interested in you. People who are genuinely attracted to each other rarely run out of things to chat about whether it is on the phone, online or in the pub it doesn't matter, if the compatibility is there the chat will flow.
Once you start to feel that all the effort seems to be on your side it is maybe time to try and back off a little.
Especially online where you say he is concentrating less than on the phone, and one reason for that could be you're not the only one he is leading on.
Try and extend your buddy circle a little (on and offline) so that you're less dependant on this one, and maybe you will find your Mr Right instead of Mr Right Now.
Regards
Waz
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (18 April 2008):
 How can you call this guy your boyfriend if you have never met him ffs? He is nothing but your CYBER BUDDY,let me tell you the definition of a boyfriend.
You go out on dates with him.
You have actually met him in the flesh and not just on screen.
You make love to him.
Hold hands
Kiss
Hug.
Get my drift?????
Oh by the way before you criticise what I have just said, I met my boyfriend online too and we have been together for 6 months and actually go out on dates and do all of the above xxxxx.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (18 April 2008):
I know I lot of people will disagree with me here, but I don't think an online and phone call relationship can ever survive past friendship.
Where is the companionship, where are the hugs and kisses? Where is the eye contact?
If this guy has stopped saying nice things to you and now only wants to talk dirty, then in real life he would only be staying with you for the sex.
Ask him if he cares about you, or if he wants to be friends instead.
Then get out and meet a guy in the real world. Nothing compares to the way a guy looks at you. It doesn't work through a screen.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Confuddled77 +, writes (18 April 2008):
 How long have you been together? I've been together with my online boyfriend for nearly 7 months now. And since last month have been experiencing what you are. He hardly talks to me these days though whereas in the beginning he couldn't get enough of me.
We're meeting up next month to see if it's worth continuing this "relationship" or not. I might suggest you guys do the same to see if there's really something there worth saving.
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