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*equilalullaby
writes:Sorry in advance if this turns quite long ... I don't like skipping details. The other night at the bar I met this guy, lets call him S. I had no idea who he was at first, but one of my friends who was with me did; so I had no problem with it when he asked if he could sit beside me. In the course of a few hours I had only had 2 drinks (I was DD for the night), but S insisted that I have another on him... he said if it came down to it he would pay for a cab. I told him I didn't like the giggling, loves everyone girl, I become when I drink, but he said he wanted to see that side of me (normally I am very shy). I finally gave in but I didn't know what I wanted to drink so he chose something for me. He bought me 2 more drinks after that, and anytime I seemed to be stopping he would look at me kind of mischievously and say my given name (not my nickname that everyone else calls me) in a mock scolding tone. I'd give him the same look back and tell him I'd drink when I want to. He told me I was stubborn, just like him. Through the rest of the night he: - would reach around me and kind of rub my shoulders with the palm of his hand as emphasis to something he was telling me about. - squeezed right up close to me to jokingly avoid his drunk friend giving him a hug. - would lean over and whisper things in my ear about the people sitting with us.- took my drink from my hands and took a sip (same straw) before handing it back and saying he would stick to beer. When I caught him staring and looked over at him he would smile or raise his eyebrow and give me some goofy look to make me laugh. - sat with me the whole night and didn't talk to anyone else. - paid my tab at the end of the night (even though it wasn't that much. I fought with him for a while about that one ... I don't like being coddled, or thinking I owe him anything.)One of my friends got really sick, so I had to leave kind of suddenly while S was in the bathroom. I never got his # or a chance to say goodbye. I also didn't get to figure out if he was just being friendly with me because I didn't know many people there, if he wanted in my pants, or if he was genuinely interested. Which does it sound like to y'all?
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reader, Auntie Mel  +, writes (19 April 2012):
 Viewing the information you have put into your question it looks like he may be interested in you but you can't really judge his intentions from just one night.
If it is his intention just to get into your pants it will be easy to pick out because he will be all over you and will get you into the bedroom at any chance he gets. Use your instincts here and make sure you don't agree to anything you don't want to do.
My advice would be to ask your friend that knows him to arrange a time for you all to meet up again or give you some contact details, like a phone number or a link to his Facebook page so you can do it yourself.
That way, if he does like you he will be able to tell you and if he isn't interested it's always best to move on.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (19 April 2012):
A bar is really not a place to meet someone who is genuinely interested in you. You do realize that?
You might want to ask your friend (who knows him) about him but else I would forget about him.
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