A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm getting mixed signals from a male colleague.About 6 months ago, i was introduced to this guy who is in quite a senior position at work. He seemed quite charming but indifferent - cracked a few funny quips etc...but nothing to write home about.However, since that initial meeting, I've noticed that he stares quite a lot at me when we're talking...mainly in my eyes, at my mouth and on a couple of occasions, at my cleavage. My friend has noticed this too! He's asked a few personal questions about my home life, as he knows my husband, but recently stepped it up a gear (asking if I received kinky underwear for my anniversary). He often comes down to my office, or 'bumps' into me in the corridor, sometimes asking for work-related favors, which any number of other colleagues could do. He 'appears' to be quite frustrated that I get on really well with a male co-worker who shares his office (becomes grumpy and ignores me until his mood changes). I am married and have no intentions towards him - I just want to know if this guy is merely flirting to boost his ego or just being friendly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): We all like attention, and sometimes people flirt with someone they know is safe - i.e. he knows you're married and your husband.
I am sure that he is attracted to you and likes the frisson of a workplace flirtation - who doesn't? But that doesn't mean that it means anything more.
If you enjoy the attention don't worry - of course he is boosting his own ego, and hopefully boosting yours. If you don't enjoy the attention then just tell him when he makes a lewd comment that you don't find it funny, and if he doesn't stop, have a quiet word alone that you want him to behave in a more professional manner.
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