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writes:I've been talking to this guy for 3 months now, he had always been a very nice guy and treats me with respect. He spends hours talking to me non stop. He always flirt with me and always opens up to me and shows me how deep and how sensitive and emotional he is. He did admit that he loves me. A few days ago, I found out that he has been recently talking to another girl, and he never told me about her. Since the time I found out, I'm not seeing him the same guy as before. My brother really hates this guy but he refuses to tell me the real reason why he does. Is he just playing me? Is just faking his love? I've always doubted and was stunned by his perfect and charming personality, and I tried everything to find out if his intentions are good or bad. I don't know what to do. And I don't know if I could trust him and his words. We are not in a relationship and I've never told him that I love him, maybe I have feelings for him, but I'm afraid to admit because I don't want to end up heartbroken. What is really weird that I've never met a guy who is sensitive as him, and admits it. I'm just having that feeling that he's just playing me, or whatever his intentions were, my guts are telling me that it's bad, and will end up hurting me like any other guy did. How do I know if he really loves e so I can tell him that I have feelings for him? Should I be worried? Do you think he's weird or what?
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reader, Cupid C.A  +, writes (13 May 2016):
Boys say i love you so easily often times not meaning it and we girls are quick to believe this. Don't go all in for this guy, the seemingly perfect guys are usually the ones to watch out for.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 May 2016):
 Technically he has done nothing wrong talking to another girl, you are not in a relationship and he does not have to tell you who he is talking to.
It is strange that your brother hates him and will not tell you why, are you close to your brother can you talk to him and tell him you like this guy and ask him why he dislikes him?
As for him telling you he loves you, yes this is strange, especially if you are both only chatting and not actually dating, do you see each other much or hang out much together?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 May 2016):
 I would be very wary if this guy is so "hated" by your brother. Unless your brother is a drama-llama who often says he "hates" this or that guy.
You say you "have been talking" for 3 months, but you don't mention going out on dates or even meeting up in person. So really, you don't know who he is, You know the "persona he shows you in texts/IM/SMS.
And only 3 months into "talking" to you he is branching out with another girl.
Saying " I love you" is easy. And it's cheap. It doesn't cost him anything and he doesn't NEED to back it up with actions since ALL you two are doing for now... is "talking". And there is no guarantee that he knows what live really is, or... that he ACTUALLY loves you. GUYS know that saying "I love you" is a big deal for a girl and that it often will lead to the girl not using common sense. Because she WANTS to be loved. It feels good.
He doesn't fully KNOW you either. All he knows is bits and pieces from conversations. You "could" be embellishing, you could be lying and he would be none the wiser (not say that you are, just pointing out that "just" talking with someone doesn't mean you REALLY get to know them. Just bits and pieces.
I think if he doesn't even bother to ask you out, so you can MEET up in person and get to know each other better - he really isn't as serious as you are, or as you "think" he is.
When people met online and start talking, a lot of the "relationship" between them is part fantasy. Because the person at each en interpret what they read/hear in a way that makes them feel good (or sometimes bad) - but it's not always reality. Someone can seem SO amazing on "paper" but in reality, once you get to know them, they are NOT what you thought they were, or what you are looking for.
My guess is your brother knows the guy is a player or wannabe-player and that is why he "hates" him. But he isn't telling you, because he doesn't want you to think your brother is just talking smack. If you can trust your brother, I'd trust the fact that your BROTHER doesn't like the guy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 May 2016):
 IF all you have done is talk to him... no dates, no intimate time, then his " I love you" seems pretty hollow to me.
If a man says "I love you" that easily I would accept that he may very well be a player and I would proceed VERY cautiously if at all.
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