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writes:How serious is a fifteen year old boy when he says he would marry you in a heartbeat and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you? We are really close friends so he knows what I am truly like and all my flaws and I don't know whether he just loves me as a friend and is exaggerating a bit or whether it takes a lot for a teenage boy to say something like that. Please help? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 December 2013):
 He means it today
he may not mean it tomorrow or next week
He will most likely (99%) NOT mean it when it matters... when you are old enough to actually be in a relationship and marry.
it's what teens say.
I met my first real boyfriend when I was 15.5. We dated till I was 18.... trust me even our parents at that point thought we might marry the changes between 15 and 18 are huge...
do not buy the china just yet.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (3 December 2013):
What it means is he has not the slightest idea of what it is he speaks of.
At his age, "forever" is around 3 days, a week tops.....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 November 2013):
 Honey, when you are 15 you think you are on top of the world and that EVERYTHING will last forever.
Give him about 10 years and he will know that REALITY is very different.
At 15 you think you can fly :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2013): When your young, your reckless in saying things you don't understand well. You don't think clearly. You can be irresponsibly reckless.
Sure he have strong feelings for you. question is until when?
6 months, one year or less.
Just enjoy being young and in love but don't think about marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2013): He totally means it right now so I don't think he is exaggerating.
However he is likely to change his mind in another few years. Or you are.
People are very different when they are 15 compared to when they are 20, 30, 40 and so on. This is why it is very common that when people get married at a young age they eventually divorce years later.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 November 2013):
 He is very serious NOW. He thinks he means it NOW, - same as he thinks that he wants to become a rock icon, or a Hollywood star. In 2 months, or 2 weeks, or 2 days he will have changed his mind and will swear his forever lasting loyalty to another girl. And in perfect good faith ,too.
Sorry OP, it really does not take anything to a 15 y.o. boy to say stuff like that- big words and big plans come in fact very easy and spontaneous to them.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (30 November 2013):
 He means it..for now! When you're 15 and in love, you think the whole world is for you. Nothing and no one can ever take it away from you and that you will get married and live happily ever after.
I hate to be cynical, but life isn't that simple. As you grow older and really step out into the world and face life, you begin to realize that there's so much that you have to do before you can think of getting married. To have to first be responsible for yourself and only then can you think of taking on the responsibility of a partner. He's right when he says he can marry you in a heartbeat...that's not the hard part. It takes a second to say "I do"! The difficult part is when you settle down into life and have to tread through the many MANY ups and downs that life has to offer.
Everyone thinks they know it all when they're 15...I thought the same way. "What do my parents know about love?" or "They never understand what I'm feeling". Ya. Right! Now that I'm almost double your age, I smile when I look back at the 15 year old me!
Maybe the guy in question is sincere and really loves you, but he doesn't quite know what he's committing to. Enjoy the friendship, if it blossoms into something bigger and sustains over time, then that'll be just fabulous! Marriage and all its trappings can wait till you're older; as of now, enjoy being a teenager.
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reader, like I see it +, writes (30 November 2013):
 It's entirely possible he's sincere about it, and by that I mean he THINKS he means it.
The thing is that 15 is a very young age to be making such sweeping declarations. Who he is now and who he is in five or ten years may be two very different people. The qualities he likes or seeks out in girls may change. You and he may go completely different directions in life - it's impossible to predict.
So, definitely a very sweet thing for him to say, but maybe not the most realistic. It's clear he likes you as more than a friend, though, because what teenage boys absolutely don't do is scrape together the courage to declare their love to girls they don't like. If you're interested in him as more than a friend, he just gave you the world's biggest green light :)
Good luck and best wishes!
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