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36-40,
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writes: Im loosing patience with my guy of 6 months. I was the one head over heels for him and had to step back cuz he was not ready. well now he is ready, askin me to move in for the last 3 months and i dont the feel the same as i did. He calls me allot during the day and the first thing i hear when i answer is "what are you doing?" in a tone that makes me feel acused. He tries to dig into every part of my life and when i say i need space, he says in to independant and not use to someone caring about me. I was busy on the phone with a work client and he got right upset when he came to my work and seen me on the phone. saying you never talk to me that long while your at work. who were u talking to? are you sure thats who you were talking to? He calls every afternoon to ask when ill be done work \( my work has no schedual) and then he is over at my place everyday within 1hr after i get home. he gets upset when i want to spend a night alone. is he being overly attentive and im not use to a guy like this? or is he being clingy?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 Sorry for the long wait to get your question answered. Sometimes they fall through the cracks if a whole bunch of questions come up in a short period of time.
To answer your question, yes, he is being clingy. He may be insecure, he may be jealous, but whatever the reason, he has an unhealthy need to control your life and your actions. It is a problem if he is coming over to your work and asking ridiculous jealous questions about your calls to clients.
The thing here is that this is HIS problem. He has to recognize that his feelings are his to deal with. You are not responsible for his insecurities or fantasies about you being unfaithful. You've only just started dating, he is being very controlling and hiding that rigidity and jealousy in the guise of 'caring' for you.
If I were you, I'd take a great big HUGE step back from him and reconsider dating him. Remember that things generally don't get better than this. He's revealed to you that he has trust issues, don't simply hope they will go away if you somehow "behave" better.
I've got an article I want you to read and really think about, okay? I hope things work out for the best for you. Take care.
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171 [you have to copy/paste that link, the question mark interrupts the hyperlink]
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